Judge acquits man of controlling behaviour because his partner was too strong and capable to be affected.
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Judge acquits man of controlling behaviour because his partner was too strong and capable to be affected.
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CAMPAIGNERS blasted a judge after she acquitted a boyfriend of controlling behaviour - because his ex was too "strong and capable" to be considered a victim.
The second female judge this week who seems clueless in regard to crimes against women.
Paul Measor taught their one year old son to tell his mum to Fuck off, and encouraged the tot to call her a slut and a slag.
He subjected Lauren Smith to daily abuse, both physical and mental, which included spitting in her face.
District judge Helen Cousins decided because his victim was a " strong and capable" woman this didnt have enough effect on her to warrant finding him guilty of using controlling and coercive behaviour.
He was convicted of common assault and sentenced to 5 months in prison.
Do these judges not live in the real world?
https://www.thesun.co.uk/news/7808081/abusive-boyfriend-girlfriend-too-strong/
CAMPAIGNERS blasted a judge after she acquitted a boyfriend of controlling behaviour - because his ex was too "strong and capable" to be considered a victim.
The second female judge this week who seems clueless in regard to crimes against women.
Paul Measor taught their one year old son to tell his mum to Fuck off, and encouraged the tot to call her a slut and a slag.
He subjected Lauren Smith to daily abuse, both physical and mental, which included spitting in her face.
District judge Helen Cousins decided because his victim was a " strong and capable" woman this didnt have enough effect on her to warrant finding him guilty of using controlling and coercive behaviour.
He was convicted of common assault and sentenced to 5 months in prison.
Do these judges not live in the real world?
https://www.thesun.co.uk/news/7808081/abusive-boyfriend-girlfriend-too-strong/
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Thor wrote:Raggamuffin wrote:
Are you saying that he was with her 24 hours a day and physically stopped her from doing anything? Are you saying that he hacked her phone and social media rather than her giving him the passwords?
Which further proves you have no idea what you are talking about
It shows you fail to understand what coercion means in how people use this to control others
The fact you continue to fail to undertstand this, means its pointless going around in circles, that is so blinded not to see here
Now I suggest you look into this more and then come back, when you have finally grasped this
Good luck
So are you going to blame her parents for not teaching her to stand up to him?
Why did she have a child with him if he was so awful?
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The way I see domestic abuse is obviously no one goes into a relationship wanting to be abused, ether emotionally or physically.
Women (and men if it applies) should get out as soon as it happens, and if everything in this world was black and white they surely would.
Once a pattern of abuse is established there are many reasons why a woman wont/cant walk away.
If they have children that's a huge factor, many abusers use their kids to hold a woman in the relationship.
She probably fears her abuser, can be scared of what he will do to her or her children if she leaves, she may have nowhere else to go, no money, no support, feel shame, the fact that abusers are often charming and convince the woman he loves her, it wont happen again, it was her fault for winding him up, etc etc etc.
When you have never been in a violent relationship and consider yourself a strong and feisty woman it may seem stupid to allow yourself to be manipulated and abused, but I suppose we have to live in a persons shoes before we know how we would act in a similar situation.
Women (and men if it applies) should get out as soon as it happens, and if everything in this world was black and white they surely would.
Once a pattern of abuse is established there are many reasons why a woman wont/cant walk away.
If they have children that's a huge factor, many abusers use their kids to hold a woman in the relationship.
She probably fears her abuser, can be scared of what he will do to her or her children if she leaves, she may have nowhere else to go, no money, no support, feel shame, the fact that abusers are often charming and convince the woman he loves her, it wont happen again, it was her fault for winding him up, etc etc etc.
When you have never been in a violent relationship and consider yourself a strong and feisty woman it may seem stupid to allow yourself to be manipulated and abused, but I suppose we have to live in a persons shoes before we know how we would act in a similar situation.
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Reading through this thread I did agree with a lot of the points Didge was making, but then he goes and spoils it all by being abusive himself.
I sometimes think people who do abuse others (and I have known a couple in real life, though thankfully I have not been in a relationship with any) are totally unaware of the damage they do, especially if the abuse is more emotional than physical.
I sometimes think people who do abuse others (and I have known a couple in real life, though thankfully I have not been in a relationship with any) are totally unaware of the damage they do, especially if the abuse is more emotional than physical.
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Syl wrote:Reading through this thread I did agree with a lot of the points Didge was making, but then he goes and spoils it all by being abusive himself.
I sometimes think people who do abuse others (and I have known a couple in real life, though thankfully I have not been in a relationship with any) are totally unaware of the damage they do, especially if the abuse is more emotional than physical.
Mainly as i get bored at people not being consistant Syl
Gelico, knows for a fact I do not mean any harm.
I simply dispair, when the fact is Rags, has no idea what she is talking about and in fact her views are in fact harmful to this kind of problem
To me Gelico seems unable to say whether something is wrong when it comes to what women say. When its men, she never shys away
That was only ever my point
So if I was horrible, I am happy to apolgise to Gelico though she should stop and listen herself. As defending some of Rags views, as I say, does nothing to actual combat such a problem like this. Where men control women with fear through coercion
So nothing has been spoilt.
I am passionate and will always speak my mind, even when it runs away from me
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Thor wrote:Syl wrote:Reading through this thread I did agree with a lot of the points Didge was making, but then he goes and spoils it all by being abusive himself.
I sometimes think people who do abuse others (and I have known a couple in real life, though thankfully I have not been in a relationship with any) are totally unaware of the damage they do, especially if the abuse is more emotional than physical.
Mainly as i get bored at people not being consistant Syl
Gelico, knows for a fact I do not mean any harm.
I simply dispair, when the fact is Rags, has no idea what she is talking about and in fact her views are in fact harmful to this kind of problem
To me Gelico seems unable to say whether something is wrong when it comes to what women say. When its men, she never shys away
That was only ever my point
So if I was horrible, I am happy to apolgise to Gelico though she should stop and listen herself. As defending some of Rags views, as I say, does nothing to actual combat such a problem like this. Where men control women with fear through coercion
So nothing has been spoilt.
I am passionate and will always speak my mind, even when it runs away from me
Have a good day
Don't confuse being "passionate" with being abusive. You are abusive, not passionate in your views.
I don't think my views are harmful, I think they're useful. People need to stop being "victims" and thinking they can't have control over their own lives.
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Raggamuffin wrote:Thor wrote:
Mainly as i get bored at people not being consistant Syl
Gelico, knows for a fact I do not mean any harm.
I simply dispair, when the fact is Rags, has no idea what she is talking about and in fact her views are in fact harmful to this kind of problem
To me Gelico seems unable to say whether something is wrong when it comes to what women say. When its men, she never shys away
That was only ever my point
So if I was horrible, I am happy to apolgise to Gelico though she should stop and listen herself. As defending some of Rags views, as I say, does nothing to actual combat such a problem like this. Where men control women with fear through coercion
So nothing has been spoilt.
I am passionate and will always speak my mind, even when it runs away from me
Have a good day
Don't confuse being "passionate" with being abusive. You are abusive, not passionate in your views.
I don't think my views are harmful, I think they're useful. People need to stop being "victims" and thinking they can't have control over their own lives.
No doubt many emotional abusers believe they are just being passionate in their views.
I dont think you have to be particularly forceful either, constantly repeating someone is thick, or ugly, past their sell by date (yep...you in this thread Didge) stupid, etc etc.....is enough to ensure some women lose all their confidence and self worth.
I think we will always disagree about all people being able to stand up to bullies and not becoming victims, there are many different reasons why people allow others to victimise them.
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Syl wrote:Reading through this thread I did agree with a lot of the points Didge was making, but then he goes and spoils it all by being abusive himself.
I sometimes think people who do abuse others (and I have known a couple in real life, though thankfully I have not been in a relationship with any) are totally unaware of the damage they do, especially if the abuse is more emotional than physical.
Unaware? Why doesn't the partner tell them?
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The word to describe emotional abuse is insidious, it starts out in very minor ways so that the abused person, for want of better words, gets used to it, until the person on the wrong end no longer has confidence or a feeling of self worth enough to do anything about it even if they recognise it as abuse, they learn that its all their fault, brainwashing, I'm sure the doubters on here recognise there is such a thing in other situations so why not recognise it in this kind of abuse.
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Vintage wrote:The word to describe emotional abuse is insidious, it starts out in very minor ways so that the abused person, for want of better words, gets used to it, until the person on the wrong end no longer has confidence or a feeling of self worth enough to do anything about it even if they recognise it as abuse, they learn that its all their fault, brainwashing, I'm sure the doubters on here recognise there is such a thing in other situations so why not recognise it in this kind of abuse.
I'm not saying the emotional abuse doesn't exist. I don't think people who indulge in it have a plan though - ie, to start off small and get worse and worse in order to control someone. They'd have to be very clever to do that.
Come on though, someone who is being told they're this or that all the time can't possibly want to stay with that person, and yet many of them do. In the case of marriage, the divorce laws are there to help them rid themselves of the abuser, and if they're not married, they can leave. I'm just not convinced that it should be a criminal act.
I'm very well aware that leaving one's home can be inconvenient, stressful, expensive, and hard work, so is that why they stay?
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Raggamuffin wrote:Vintage wrote:The word to describe emotional abuse is insidious, it starts out in very minor ways so that the abused person, for want of better words, gets used to it, until the person on the wrong end no longer has confidence or a feeling of self worth enough to do anything about it even if they recognise it as abuse, they learn that its all their fault, brainwashing, I'm sure the doubters on here recognise there is such a thing in other situations so why not recognise it in this kind of abuse.
I'm not saying the emotional abuse doesn't exist. I don't think people who indulge in it have a plan though - ie, to start off small and get worse and worse in order to control someone. They'd have to be very clever to do that.
Come on though, someone who is being told they're this or that all the time can't possibly want to stay with that person, and yet many of them do. In the case of marriage, the divorce laws are there to help them rid themselves of the abuser, and if they're not married, they can leave. I'm just not convinced that it should be a criminal act.
I'm very well aware that leaving one's home can be inconvenient, stressful, expensive, and hard work, so is that why they stay?
The problem is and always has been when people like yourself make views on something you know nothing about and yet you continue to do so. In the face of all evidence and studies on this. You continue to spout garbage.
Even worse, that you continue to think you know better on this and I would for one never trust you in the hands of anyone going through such abuse. As you would make it a hundred times worse
So my advice to you, is to actually listen to people who have a far greater knowledge on something that you simple do not have
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Thor wrote:Raggamuffin wrote:
I'm not saying the emotional abuse doesn't exist. I don't think people who indulge in it have a plan though - ie, to start off small and get worse and worse in order to control someone. They'd have to be very clever to do that.
Come on though, someone who is being told they're this or that all the time can't possibly want to stay with that person, and yet many of them do. In the case of marriage, the divorce laws are there to help them rid themselves of the abuser, and if they're not married, they can leave. I'm just not convinced that it should be a criminal act.
I'm very well aware that leaving one's home can be inconvenient, stressful, expensive, and hard work, so is that why they stay?
The problem is and always has been when people like yourself make views on something you know nothing about and yet you continue to do so. In the face of all evidence and studies on this. You continue to spout garbage.
Even worse, that you continue to think you know better on this and I would for one never trust you in the hands of anyone going through such abuse. As you would make it a hundred times worse
So my advice to you, is to actually listen to people who have a far greater knowledge on something that you simple do not have
You don't know anything about it. I know you think you're a psychologist, but you're not. I doubt I'd advise anyone who was being abused, except to tell them not to put up with it. That's good advice, but people generally don't listen to good advice do they?
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Anyway, with regards to this case, the judge was simply following the law. The law says that the victim must have suffered serious effects, and the judge did not think that this woman had. It's not enough that she's having therapy or whatever.
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Raggamuffin wrote:Thor wrote:
The problem is and always has been when people like yourself make views on something you know nothing about and yet you continue to do so. In the face of all evidence and studies on this. You continue to spout garbage.
Even worse, that you continue to think you know better on this and I would for one never trust you in the hands of anyone going through such abuse. As you would make it a hundred times worse
So my advice to you, is to actually listen to people who have a far greater knowledge on something that you simple do not have
You don't know anything about it. I know you think you're a psychologist, but you're not. I doubt I'd advise anyone who was being abused, except to tell them not to put up with it. That's good advice, but people generally don't listen to good advice do they?
Well, as shown I do know far more than you do on this
You again however want to live in cloud cuckoo land on this
So when people as clueless as yourself try to advise on something you know nothing about. You will often find what you advise is in actual reality damanging
So maybe you need to understand that every now and again, you need to shut your mouth, as you were taking out of your arse on this thread
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Thor wrote:Raggamuffin wrote:
You don't know anything about it. I know you think you're a psychologist, but you're not. I doubt I'd advise anyone who was being abused, except to tell them not to put up with it. That's good advice, but people generally don't listen to good advice do they?
Well, as shown I do know far more than you do on this
You again however want to live in cloud cuckoo land on this
So when people as clueless as yourself try to advise on something you know nothing about. You will often find what you advise is in actual reality damanging
So maybe you need to understand that every now and again, you need to shut your mouth, as you were taking out of your arse on this thread
You haven't shown that at all. Having a different opinion doesn't mean you know more. Perhaps you should shut your mouth and stop your abusive behaviour. Perhaps you recognise this man in yourself and it's making you a bit stressed.
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Raggamuffin wrote:Thor wrote:
Well, as shown I do know far more than you do on this
You again however want to live in cloud cuckoo land on this
So when people as clueless as yourself try to advise on something you know nothing about. You will often find what you advise is in actual reality damanging
So maybe you need to understand that every now and again, you need to shut your mouth, as you were taking out of your arse on this thread
You haven't shown that at all. Having a different opinion doesn't mean you know more. Perhaps you should shut your mouth and stop your abusive behaviour. Perhaps you recognise this man in yourself and it's making you a bit stressed.
Good luck living in cloud cuckoo land
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Thor wrote:Raggamuffin wrote:
You haven't shown that at all. Having a different opinion doesn't mean you know more. Perhaps you should shut your mouth and stop your abusive behaviour. Perhaps you recognise this man in yourself and it's making you a bit stressed.
Good luck living in cloud cuckoo land
You must know I'm right about you. Are you really so unaware of your own behaviour?
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Raggamuffin wrote:Anyway, with regards to this case, the judge was simply following the law. The law says that the victim must have suffered serious effects, and the judge did not think that this woman had. It's not enough that she's having therapy or whatever.
What would be enough? Should she feel suicidal or attempt to kill him instead?
"Schools learning manager Lauren hit back: "It has had a serious effect.
"I'm attending meetings with a domestic violence support group, my confidence has been badly knocked and I struggle to trust people.
"He controlled my life for four years and the effect of that didn't go away the minute he was taken away by the police. It still hasn't, it's going to take time."
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Syl wrote:Raggamuffin wrote:Anyway, with regards to this case, the judge was simply following the law. The law says that the victim must have suffered serious effects, and the judge did not think that this woman had. It's not enough that she's having therapy or whatever.
What would be enough? Should she feel suicidal or attempt to kill him instead?
"Schools learning manager Lauren hit back: "It has had a serious effect.
"I'm attending meetings with a domestic violence support group, my confidence has been badly knocked and I struggle to trust people.
"He controlled my life for four years and the effect of that didn't go away the minute he was taken away by the police. It still hasn't, it's going to take time."
did the judge ask her at all why it went on for four years? did she give any indication as to why she never left before?
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gelico wrote:Syl wrote:
What would be enough? Should she feel suicidal or attempt to kill him instead?
"Schools learning manager Lauren hit back: "It has had a serious effect.
"I'm attending meetings with a domestic violence support group, my confidence has been badly knocked and I struggle to trust people.
"He controlled my life for four years and the effect of that didn't go away the minute he was taken away by the police. It still hasn't, it's going to take time."
did the judge ask her at all why it went on for four years? did she give any indication as to why she never left before?
What relvance does the lengh of time matter, when a person has such a control over someone else?
Where the judge failed to recognise this
What does it matter whether it was 4 or 8 years?
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Syl wrote:Raggamuffin wrote:Anyway, with regards to this case, the judge was simply following the law. The law says that the victim must have suffered serious effects, and the judge did not think that this woman had. It's not enough that she's having therapy or whatever.
What would be enough? Should she feel suicidal or attempt to kill him instead?
"Schools learning manager Lauren hit back: "It has had a serious effect.
"I'm attending meetings with a domestic violence support group, my confidence has been badly knocked and I struggle to trust people.
"He controlled my life for four years and the effect of that didn't go away the minute he was taken away by the police. It still hasn't, it's going to take time."
You can't convict anyone who's been mean to their partner and upset them - the prisons would be full. The harm done has to be serious, and going for counselling isn't that serious. Neither is having one's confidence knocked.
I just don't get why she let him behave like that for four years if she didn't like it.
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gelico wrote:Syl wrote:
What would be enough? Should she feel suicidal or attempt to kill him instead?
"Schools learning manager Lauren hit back: "It has had a serious effect.
"I'm attending meetings with a domestic violence support group, my confidence has been badly knocked and I struggle to trust people.
"He controlled my life for four years and the effect of that didn't go away the minute he was taken away by the police. It still hasn't, it's going to take time."
did the judge ask her at all why it went on for four years? did she give any indication as to why she never left before?
There's just not enough info about this case to know the details.
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Raggamuffin wrote:Syl wrote:
What would be enough? Should she feel suicidal or attempt to kill him instead?
"Schools learning manager Lauren hit back: "It has had a serious effect.
"I'm attending meetings with a domestic violence support group, my confidence has been badly knocked and I struggle to trust people.
"He controlled my life for four years and the effect of that didn't go away the minute he was taken away by the police. It still hasn't, it's going to take time."
You can't convict anyone who's been mean to their partner and upset them - the prisons would be full. The harm done has to be serious, and going for counselling isn't that serious. Neither is having one's confidence knocked.
I just don't get why she let him behave like that for four years if she didn't like it.
The law disagrees with you and thankfully so
As we now have a better understanding of non-physical domestic abuse
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You can't convict anyone who's been mean to their partner and upset them - the prisons would be full. The harm done has to be serious, and going for counselling isn't that serious. Neither is having one's confidence knocked.
I just don't get why she let him behave like that for four years if she didn't like it.
The law disagrees with you and thankfully so
As we now have a better understanding of non-physical domestic abuse
The law doesn't disagree with me at all, hence the verdict of the judge. Try researching the law.
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Raggamuffin wrote:Thor wrote:
The law disagrees with you and thankfully so
As we now have a better understanding of non-physical domestic abuse
The law doesn't disagree with me at all, hence the verdict of the judge. Try researching the law.
Actually you are wrong again
The judge simple decided and wrongly in my opinion, that she was "too" strong to be victim to this kind of abuse
In other words she never denied the controlling behaviour. She denied this effected the victim
So maybe again I suggest you read up on what you are talking about, as again your are in error
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It's s much more than someone being mean to partner and upsetting them! Its not a tiff. It's consistent demoralisation, people subject to it end up with no self esteem, confidence or self worth, even if they realise what's going on they are so stripped of personality they think they don't have anywhere to go, or that they can function without the abuser, it takes a lot to realise what's happening it takes a whole lot more to actually do something about it, even then some people just can't do it and go back to the person abusing them. Its like people in a cult even if they realise its wrong they can't find the strength to leave, if they do many go back of those that stay out a lot can't deal with it and commit suicide.,
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Again this is now part of the law and how many boxes does this case meet here in the following?
Some common examples of coercive behaviour are:
Isolating you from friends and family
Depriving you of basic needs, such as food
Monitoring your time
Monitoring you via online communication tools or spyware
Taking control over aspects of your everyday life, such as where you can go, who you can see, what you can wear and when you can sleep
Depriving you access to support services, such as medical services
Repeatedly putting you down, such as saying you’re worthless
Humiliating, degrading or dehumanising you
Controlling your finances
Making threats or intimidating you
https://www.womensaid.org.uk/information-support/what-is-domestic-abuse/coercive-control/
Some common examples of coercive behaviour are:
Isolating you from friends and family
Depriving you of basic needs, such as food
Monitoring your time
Monitoring you via online communication tools or spyware
Taking control over aspects of your everyday life, such as where you can go, who you can see, what you can wear and when you can sleep
Depriving you access to support services, such as medical services
Repeatedly putting you down, such as saying you’re worthless
Humiliating, degrading or dehumanising you
Controlling your finances
Making threats or intimidating you
https://www.womensaid.org.uk/information-support/what-is-domestic-abuse/coercive-control/
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Vintage wrote:It's s much more than someone being mean to partner and upsetting them! Its not a tiff. It's consistent demoralisation, people subject to it end up with no self esteem, confidence or self worth, even if they realise what's going on they are so stripped of personality they think they don't have anywhere to go, or that they can function without the abuser, it takes a lot to realise what's happening it takes a whole lot more to actually do something about it, even then some people just can't do it and go back to the person abusing them. Its like people in a cult even if they realise its wrong they can't find the strength to leave, if they do many go back of those that stay out a lot can't deal with it and commit suicide.,
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Thor wrote:Raggamuffin wrote:
The law doesn't disagree with me at all, hence the verdict of the judge. Try researching the law.
Actually you are wrong again
The judge simple decided and wrongly in my opinion, that she was "too" strong to be victim to this kind of abuse
In other words she never denied the controlling behaviour. She denied this effected the victim
So maybe again I suggest you read up on what you are talking about, as again your are in error
If you read up on the actual law, you'll see that the judge was saying that she didn't suffer serious harm, which is necessary for a conviction.
District Judge Helen Cousins said she had to decide whether his behaviour had "a serious effect "on the victim.
She said the behaviour was "disgraceful" but didn't have a big enough impact on Lauren to find him guilty.
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Raggamuffin wrote:Thor wrote:
Actually you are wrong again
The judge simple decided and wrongly in my opinion, that she was "too" strong to be victim to this kind of abuse
In other words she never denied the controlling behaviour. She denied this effected the victim
So maybe again I suggest you read up on what you are talking about, as again your are in error
If you read up on the actual law, you'll see that the judge was saying that she didn't suffer serious harm, which is necessary for a conviction.District Judge Helen Cousins said she had to decide whether his behaviour had "a serious effect "on the victim.
She said the behaviour was "disgraceful" but didn't have a big enough impact on Lauren to find him guilty.
What did I just tell you?
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If you read up on the actual law, you'll see that the judge was saying that she didn't suffer serious harm, which is necessary for a conviction.
What did I just tell you?
So you agree that the judge followed the law then. Good.
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Raggamuffin wrote:Thor wrote:
What did I just tell you?
So you agree that the judge followed the law then. Good.
Cathy newman alert
Never made a claim the judge was right
In fact I said she was wrong in her judgement, just as many other people including the victim are stating
You just posted up what I just told you myself about the judges decision
Seriously, do you read posts before you reply?
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This is what the judge said:
The judge said in her ruling: ‘I have to be satisfied the behaviour was controlling, coercive, and it had a serious effect on the victim. There’s no doubt the victim is a strong and capable woman, whose evidence was truthful. She has since successfully removed herself from the harmful situation.
‘It is to her credit that I cannot find the defendant’s behaviour had a serious effect on her in the context of the guidelines for this offence.’
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So you agree that the judge followed the law then. Good.
Cathy newman alert
Never made a claim the judge was right
In fact I said she was wrong in her judgement, just as many other people including the victim are stating
You just posted up what I just told you myself about the judges decision
Seriously, do you read posts before you reply?
Well the victim would say that wouldn't she? She wanted him to be convicted.
I'm saying that the effects on her weren't serious enough for a conviction. That's what the judge said.
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Raggamuffin wrote:This is what the judge said:The judge said in her ruling: ‘I have to be satisfied the behaviour was controlling, coercive, and it had a serious effect on the victim. There’s no doubt the victim is a strong and capable woman, whose evidence was truthful. She has since successfully removed herself from the harmful situation.
‘It is to her credit that I cannot find the defendant’s behaviour had a serious effect on her in the context of the guidelines for this offence.’
Well its very clear from the victim, this has had a major effect
Or did you skip that part as well?
This is what the judge poorly discounted
Hence why many people are outraged at the decision
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Raggamuffin wrote:Thor wrote:
Cathy newman alert
Never made a claim the judge was right
In fact I said she was wrong in her judgement, just as many other people including the victim are stating
You just posted up what I just told you myself about the judges decision
Seriously, do you read posts before you reply?
Well the victim would say that wouldn't she? She wanted him to be convicted.
I'm saying that the effects on her weren't serious enough for a conviction. That's what the judge said.
wow
I am simple going to leave that for others to read and be astounded as I am, at your reply
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Raggamuffin wrote:Syl wrote:
What would be enough? Should she feel suicidal or attempt to kill him instead?
"Schools learning manager Lauren hit back: "It has had a serious effect.
"I'm attending meetings with a domestic violence support group, my confidence has been badly knocked and I struggle to trust people.
"He controlled my life for four years and the effect of that didn't go away the minute he was taken away by the police. It still hasn't, it's going to take time."
You can't convict anyone who's been mean to their partner and upset them - the prisons would be full. The harm done has to be serious, and going for counselling isn't that serious. Neither is having one's confidence knocked.
"A new criminal offence of Controlling and Coercive Behaviour in an Intimate or Familial Relationship was created three years ago with The Serious Crime Act 2015, which was a game changer. Punishable by up to five years in prison, 2018 sentencing guidelines for those convicted of this offence recognises that the crime is all the more serious for having been committed in a home, between people in a relationship.
The Home Office recently published guidelines listing characteristics of behaviour that might constitute an offence and this really represents a departure from historic views of what constituted domestic abuse. The guidelines include:
Isolating a person from their friends and family;
Monitoring their time;
Monitoring a person online or using spyware;
Taking control over aspects of their everyday life, such as where they can go, who they can see, what to wear and when they can sleep;
Depriving them of access to support services, such as specialist support or medical services;
Repeatedly putting them down such as telling them they are worthless;
Enforcing rules and activity which humiliate, degrade or dehumanise the victim.
Forcing the victim to take part in criminal activity such as shoplifting, neglect or abuse of children to encourage self-blame and prevent disclosure to authorities;
Financial abuse including control of finances, such as only allowing a person a punitive allowance;
Threats to hurt or kill or threats to a child;
Threats to reveal or publish private information (e.g. threatening to ‘out’ someone);
Assault;
Criminal damage (such as destruction of household goods);
Rape;
Preventing a person from having access to transport or from working."
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Thor wrote:Raggamuffin wrote:This is what the judge said:
Well its very clear from the victim, this has had a major effect
Or did you skip that part as well?
This is what the judge poorly discounted
Hence why many people are outraged at the decision
It's had an effect but not serious enough to warrant a conviction. Which bit of that do you not understand?
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Those two counts alone (in the table above) should have been enough to have found him guilty of the charge of Controlling and coercive behaviour.
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You can't convict anyone who's been mean to their partner and upset them - the prisons would be full. The harm done has to be serious, and going for counselling isn't that serious. Neither is having one's confidence knocked.
"A new criminal offence of Controlling and Coercive Behaviour in an Intimate or Familial Relationship was created three years ago with The Serious Crime Act 2015, which was a game changer. Punishable by up to five years in prison, 2018 sentencing guidelines for those convicted of this offence recognises that the crime is all the more serious for having been committed in a home, between people in a relationship.
The Home Office recently published guidelines listing characteristics of behaviour that might constitute an offence and this really represents a departure from historic views of what constituted domestic abuse. The guidelines include:
Isolating a person from their friends and family;
Monitoring their time;
Monitoring a person online or using spyware;
Taking control over aspects of their everyday life, such as where they can go, who they can see, what to wear and when they can sleep;
Depriving them of access to support services, such as specialist support or medical services;
Repeatedly putting them down such as telling them they are worthless;
Enforcing rules and activity which humiliate, degrade or dehumanise the victim.
Forcing the victim to take part in criminal activity such as shoplifting, neglect or abuse of children to encourage self-blame and prevent disclosure to authorities;
Financial abuse including control of finances, such as only allowing a person a punitive allowance;
Threats to hurt or kill or threats to a child;
Threats to reveal or publish private information (e.g. threatening to ‘out’ someone);
Assault;
Criminal damage (such as destruction of household goods);
Rape;
Preventing a person from having access to transport or from working."
I'm well aware of the law, thanks.
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Well the victim would say that wouldn't she? She wanted him to be convicted.
I'm saying that the effects on her weren't serious enough for a conviction. That's what the judge said.
wow
I am simple going to leave that for others to read and be astounded as I am, at your reply
She's not going to say that it didn't have a serious effect is she? Do have some common sense.
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So why did she have a child with someone who treated her badly? Can anyone answer that?
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Raggamuffin wrote:Syl wrote:
"A new criminal offence of Controlling and Coercive Behaviour in an Intimate or Familial Relationship was created three years ago with The Serious Crime Act 2015, which was a game changer. Punishable by up to five years in prison, 2018 sentencing guidelines for those convicted of this offence recognises that the crime is all the more serious for having been committed in a home, between people in a relationship.
The Home Office recently published guidelines listing characteristics of behaviour that might constitute an offence and this really represents a departure from historic views of what constituted domestic abuse. The guidelines include:
Isolating a person from their friends and family;
Monitoring their time;
Monitoring a person online or using spyware;
Taking control over aspects of their everyday life, such as where they can go, who they can see, what to wear and when they can sleep;
Depriving them of access to support services, such as specialist support or medical services;
Repeatedly putting them down such as telling them they are worthless;
Enforcing rules and activity which humiliate, degrade or dehumanise the victim.
Forcing the victim to take part in criminal activity such as shoplifting, neglect or abuse of children to encourage self-blame and prevent disclosure to authorities;
Financial abuse including control of finances, such as only allowing a person a punitive allowance;
Threats to hurt or kill or threats to a child;
Threats to reveal or publish private information (e.g. threatening to ‘out’ someone);
Assault;
Criminal damage (such as destruction of household goods);
Rape;
Preventing a person from having access to transport or from working."
I'm well aware of the law, thanks.
Maybe you are not. This is a relatively new law (3 years)and was only updated last year.
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I'm well aware of the law, thanks.
Maybe you are not. This is a relatively new law (3 years)and was only updated last year.
Yes, I know. That's what we've been talking about. Have you actually read the whole thing or just the bits you want to?
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Raggamuffin wrote:So why did she have a child with someone who treated her badly? Can anyone answer that?
No...obviously.
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Raggamuffin wrote:So why did she have a child with someone who treated her badly? Can anyone answer that?
This is even more an astounding comment
showing you have no idea what you are talking about on this issue of control
This is why I disapair when you come out with such ridiculous comments such as this
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Thor wrote:Raggamuffin wrote:So why did she have a child with someone who treated her badly? Can anyone answer that?
This is even more an astounding comment
showing you have no idea what you are talking about on this issue of control
This is why I disapair when you come out with such ridiculous comments such as this
Jules also raised this issue earlier. Why did you not pull her up for it?
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Raggamuffin wrote:Thor wrote:
This is even more an astounding comment
showing you have no idea what you are talking about on this issue of control
This is why I disapair when you come out with such ridiculous comments such as this
Jules also raised this issue earlier. Why did you not pull her up for it?
Okay just to show how ridiculous a statement that is
Not all pregnancies are planned
You do realise this
Not everyone when pregnant wants to have an abortion
To ask why she stayed with him, failing to understand she struggled to even get away from him, shows how dumb a question that is to make
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Raggamuffin wrote:Syl wrote:
Maybe you are not. This is a relatively new law (3 years)and was only updated last year.
Yes, I know. That's what we've been talking about. Have you actually read the whole thing or just the bits you want to?
I have read it. Your previous post was.....
"Anyway, with regards to this case, the judge was simply following the law. The law says that the victim must have suffered serious effects, and the judge did not think that this woman had. It's not enough that she's having therapy or whatever."
My point is the judge was not simply following the law. The man was obvious guilty of at least two of the offences (which I highlighted) on the list.
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Jules also raised this issue earlier. Why did you not pull her up for it?
Okay just to show how ridiculous a statement that is
Not all pregnancies are planned
You do realise this
Not everyone when pregnant wants to have an abortion
To ask why she syated with him, failing to understand she struggled to even get away from him, shows how dumb a question that is to make
So why was she having sex with a man who was so nasty to her? When did she struggle to get away from him, other than when she had enough evidence to get him arrested?
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Yes, I know. That's what we've been talking about. Have you actually read the whole thing or just the bits you want to?
I have read it. Your previous post was.....
"Anyway, with regards to this case, the judge was simply following the law. The law says that the victim must have suffered serious effects, and the judge did not think that this woman had. It's not enough that she's having therapy or whatever."
My point is the judge was not simply following the law. The man was obvious guilty of at least two of the offences (which I highlighted) on the list.
That's not the issue. You haven't read the bit about the effect on the victim have you? It has to have a serious effect to warrant a conviction, and the effect wasn't serious enough. People lose confidence for all kinds of reasons.
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