Schoolgirls at mixed secondary school are reduced to tears after headteacher tells them 'short skirts make them targets for sexual harassment'

Vintage wrote:Schools should be somewhere you can relax and learn without worrying if your hair and makeup is ok and if your clothes are looking good. Plenty of time for that at weekends and after school. Probably not possible these days.

Didge wrote:Get to the point

Didge wrote:Based on what evidence?

Sorry but psychologically its actually the opposite, because they are coming of age being inquisitive of attraction with both boys and girls

So I think you are basing this soley on your perceived views and not the reality of how many girls feel today in this day and age

Hence you lack emphatic intelligence mate

Didge wrote:Well the reason why guys like porn and also a number of women do, is it provides excitment and titillation. A world free from rejection or having someone say no to you. I mean your hand is never going to say no to your desires are they Quill?. Which is not even the point here as porn only drives fantasies for people based off a particular sexual like they have

Doktor wrote:How Are Men And Women’s Attraction Different?

Understand how women are different

1)    Women in general are more intuitive than men. They can sense you before you even walk up to them.
2)    Women are more sensitive and emotional, so if you haven’t built a rapport with them, anything can change in a moment.
3)    Most women are not looking for a one-night-stand. You are being tested and evaluated regardless of how casual the encounter seems. Regardless whether if they are able to get pregnant or not, they are biologically wired not to sleep with the village idiot because they can get pregnant.
4)    Female sexual turn-on begins in the brain but only with parts of the brain deactivated such as the amygdala so impulses can reach the pleasure centers. This is why TRUST is so important.
5)    Relationships and connecting with people rules most women’s hearts. Women do not fear tension and will invest more time into a relationship regardless of how significant the other person is.
6)    If connected to their true feminine essence, most women do not want to be in control. They do not need to be right if they feel cherished. It is innate for them to want to be protected and guided by healthy masculine presence.

What are women attracted to and desire in men?
1)    The number one attraction for women is strength. Strength can take the form of stability, protection, or being a standup guy. You can exhibit strength regardless of how much money you make.
2)    How you set your stage before you approach a woman has a lot to do with whether or not she will be attracted to you. In other words, if you are nervous or desperate, more than likely the outcome will not be to your liking.
3)    Women want to feel something beyond the surface, even in a brief conversation. You will only be memorable if you create some emotional spark.
4)    She needs to be able to trust your navigating skills. Are you the captain of your own ship? Are you clear with your direction in life?
5)    You cannot be more emotional than her unless you prefer to be the most feminine character and her be the masculine character. She must not feel like you need her. Women want to feel the presence of a man, not a boy.

Understand how men are different
1)    Men prefer less distractions, drama, and emotional transactions that could deter them from their goals. The more difficult you make it for them, typically the less interested they might become.
2)    Men are more logical. They think about things more than connecting the experience to emotions. When you say things, they hear you literally. They might pay attention more to your words rather than what you are feeling in that moment.
3)    Men are also looking for the “one” but could have emotionless sex with a woman they just met.
4)    Men have a sexual pursuit area in the brain that is 2.5 times larger than the equivalent in the female brain. A man can become sexually aroused without any conversation. Men’s brains are geared toward assessing potential mates by visually seeing if they are healthy.
5)    Having a good career, a clear path, and organized life is what empowers men. Men fear losing their direction being involved in interpersonal relationships that evoke emotions.
6)    If connected to their true masculine nature, most men want to be in control. They want to be right and in charge of things. They feel their best when they can fix or help things.

What are men attracted to and desire in women?
1)    Men (masculine men) are attracted to women who offer a variety of feminine energy. It could be construed as beauty, movement, voice, playfulness, gentleness, and creativity. Your career, money, or intellect is not as important as than the light that you bring into his life.
2)    If you appear too busy you might not be approached. If you are not smiling inside it will project that you are not approachable. Men seek light and all where they fall short in their own femininity.
3)    If you are emitting energy that feels clingy or that you are lonely, you will attract your receptacle which is a man who is lost. Strong men are attracted to women who carry themselves as an expression of love rather than women who are seeking a lover to make them feel good about themselves.
4)    One thing that will make you more attractive to men is relinquishing the masculine/determined approach to finding “the one” but staying connected to love itself and the flow of life.
5)    He wants to be appreciated by you. He needs to feel like the hero in some places in your life. He wants to feel like you possibly need (not clingy or desperate but to experience greater love) him in your life.

Didge wrote:Once been a stud?

Original Quill wrote:

Didge wrote:Get to the point

I have.

Didge wrote:Have you?

I disagree.  You say that girls are not trying to be attractive and sexually appealing, but the facts are all around you.  What is the entire fashion industry doing, but feeding a desire to be appealing.

Didge wrote:Where did I claim that?

never did
My point is on how people seem to thing exposing the thigh is some how wrong
Of course the legs of men nd women are sexually appealling to men and women
So again stop making false claims to things I never said
People are more phsyically attracted to facial looks, before any body looks. The body looks are secondary. People are certainly turned on by the sexual attraction with the body, but the face is more important.

A guy can have the fittest body in the world, but if he is but ugly. Then many women physcially are going to be put off

I hope you are not defending porn.  My point is that eroticism is entirely different for men versus women.

I became interested when I noticed that my daughters were much more cerebral about relationships.  A Swiss sexologist came up with the above synopsis.  I can't find the exact article now, but here is an example:

.So no link

wow and how in anyway did the views differ from me?

Didge wrote:Once been a stud?

I thought you would like that.  I make no claim to special talents, but do draw upon my own experience.

Didge wrote:Then why not answer my points mate and not go over what someone else thinks

Didge wrote:I have the degree in this and you had to plagerise?

That makes me feel better than you bud

Original Quill wrote:A Swiss sexologist came up with the above synopsis. Here is an example:

Didge wrote:That makes me feel better than you bud

Original Quill wrote:

Didge wrote:Then why not answer my points mate and not go over what someone else thinks

I just did.  Have you not read the doktor article?

Didge wrote:I read a subjtive view

Um, did I not give proper credit?  I'm not even an expert, and you think I wrote all that?  To plagiarize is to claim the words of another as your own.  A chap named Dr. Ray Doktor wrote it, as I indicated.  What I said, and I repeat:

Didge wrote:So you have no idea what you posted could be good, let alone true or not. You just posted it and never understood this

wow

Seems clear, I'm attributing the article to another...which is not plagiarizing.

But, I'm more interested in your last sentence:

Didge wrote:That makes me feel better than you bud

Are you haunted by bad feelings about yourself, ordinarily?  Are you a narcissist in need of a fix?  Trump behaves like everything is about him, and his actions are considered compensatory.

Perhaps a little counselling will help you...

Didge wrote:How did I know you would attempt to turn this on me?

I have no need o0f a fix, other than answers to life questions

Yet you seem to avoid them mate

Didge wrote:I have the degree in this and you had to plagerise?

That makes me feel better than you bud

Original Quill wrote:

Didge wrote:How did I know you would attempt to turn this on me?

I have no need o0f a fix, other than answers to life questions

Yet you seem to avoid them mate

I didn't turn it on you mate. You did:

Didge wrote:Yes you did buddy

By your own words, you turned it on yourself.  I'm most concerned about your competitive motives.  As this was just an interesting conversation about dress codes and such, why and how did you manage to steer it onto yourself?

Didge wrote:

Original Quill wrote:

I didn't turn it on you mate. You did:

By your own words, you turned it on yourself.  I'm most concerned about your competitive motives.  As this was just an interesting conversation about dress codes and such, why and how did you manage to steer it onto yourself?

Wel condsidering I agree with Vintage at times, even though my views at times conflict with her here

How is that competative?

If it was, I would never ever bow to any view she made hee and yet I did

How silly do you look now mate?

Original Quill wrote:

Didge wrote:


Wel condsidering I agree with Vintage at times, even though my views at times conflict with her here

How is that competative?

If it was, I would never ever bow to any view she made hee and yet I did

How silly do you look now mate?

Not at all.  It's not about me.  Nor is it about Vintage.

You've turned this into a discussion about you.  This was just an interesting conversation about dress codes and such.  Now it's all about how you are the expert and how, in your own words: "that makes me feel better than you."     That's pretty sociopathic, mate.

Didge wrote:

Original Quill wrote:

Not at all.  It's not about me.  Nor is it about Vintage.

You've turned this into a discussion about you.  This was just an interesting conversation about dress codes and such.  Now it's all about how you are the expert and how, in your own words: "that makes me feel better than you."     That's pretty sociopathic, mate.

Boooooooring

Change the record its no about either of us or Vintage, so stop mud slinging

So get back to the topic

Vintage wrote:It was indeed like that in my day, even down to the Secondary Mod girls. A few of the girls by Form 5 would wear mascara but if any teachers noticed they had to wash it off. We also used to have uniform check days, lined up in the yard and length of skirts checked, girls also had to be wearing the school beret. both boys and girls ties were checked that they were worn in the proper way not the short thick part showing with most of the thin bit tucked in your blouse/shirt, boys had to have their school cap on, shoes were lace ups for both boys and girls. The worst part for girls in the first couple of years I was there were thick green knickers (proper elasticated legs)that we wore for gym and shame and embarrassment, for hockey. We also had to tuck the gym tops into them which made them more bulky, the playing field was right next to the road, in year three it changed to shorts .