Read What The 'Meanest Mom Ever' Did To Her Kids' Ice Cream At Dairy Queen. Was She Right?

Or she could've just reminded them "Erm...excuse me, but what do you say to that lady?" and they'd have said "thank you!"

Happy lady
Happy kids
Happy mum.....

Hold on, wait....not a happy mum, becasue she'd have had nothing to write about on Facebook

She must know that her kids normally say thanks but on this instance they were excited to "tuck into" their ice cream... A gentle reminder would have sufficed.

If her kids never say thanks then yes, she's the world's meanest mother and an attention-seeker to boot.

Ps: did she says "thank you" to the lady??
Bet she bloody didn't!

So she posted up an important message based of how her kids acted.
And then also doing what can be construed as a bad thing.
She is reaching out and yet as per usual the usual self pontificating judges themselves, whop bring their own world life issues to this forum for the world to see. Make issue with others other who are bringing this to others.
The hypocrisy is pathetic its beyond belief

She never posted this on the website, others choose to post up her facebook post, But hey the usual crowd of down pleases like to think they know best

Yeah whatever, but my other points were bloody spot on.

eddie wrote:Yeah whatever, but my other points were bloody spot on.

In your world maybe

Unless its personal, which I will always help, I am not going to take anything serious that you say anymore, its got that embarrassing Eddie

Bloody hell....WHY do people think everyone else is interested in every aspect of their boring hum drum lives?

So the kids forgot to say thank you.....call out the military.
Stupid mother should have said then and there..."Say thank you"....job sorted.

Eddie was 100% right in her answer.

Syl wrote:Bloody hell....WHY do people think everyone else is interested in every aspect of their boring hum drum lives?

So the kids forgot to say thank you.....call out the military.
Stupid mother should have said then and there..."Say thank you"....job sorted.

Eddie was 100% right in her answer.

Ask the website who took up her story

They found it interesting

If you do not, so what and why then bother to comment because clearly others are interested
She was teaching a life lesson, I guess that does not register with you
She never asked the website to take up her post did she, so why are you then having a ago at her?
To make yourself feel good it seems

didge wrote:

Syl wrote:Bloody hell....WHY do people think everyone else is interested in every aspect of their boring hum drum lives?

So the kids forgot to say thank you.....call out the military.
Stupid mother should have said then and there..."Say thank you"....job sorted.

Eddie was 100% right in her answer.

Ask the website who took up her story

They found it interesting

If you do not, so what and why then bother to comment because clearly others are interested

What is interesting is the fact that so many people need to share their every bloody bowel movement with the whole world.
Also interesting is the fact that other people want to hear about it.

I cant believe that peoples lives are so boring that they are obsessed with the utterly mundane happenings of other human beings.

Syl wrote:

didge wrote:

Ask the website who took up her story

They found it interesting

If you do not, so what and why then bother to comment because clearly others are interested

What is interesting is the fact that so many people need to share their every bloody bowel movement with the whole world.
Also interesting is the fact that other people want to hear about it.

I cant believe that peoples lives are so boring that they are obsessed with the utterly mundane happenings of other human beings.

That is their choice because they find it interesting.

Again where people are parents they can relate to such things.

Its easy like Eddie did to sit back and judge in hindsight, where all of us at one time have been disappointed over things are own children have done. Even Eddie has share some of those disappointments and do you know what I did, show positive views back on such a trying day for her.
I never knocked it and took the positives from where we can all become frustrated.
Hence to her views here I found very poor

@Eddie,syl and the rest

Syl said


"I cant believe that peoples lives are so boring that they are obsessed with the utterly mundane happenings of other human beings."


but you are all totally mesmerised by the mundane happenings of celebs
plastic brained, plastic faced (and boobed) nonentities, whos importance to society falls WAY below that of even the humble dustman, and yet who con people just lie you into providing them with the millionaire life style...

and YET...you see fit to criticise a mum who dealt strongly with an issue, which, lets face it is important in socialising the savages that we produce....

Lord Foul wrote:@Eddie,syl and the rest

Syl said


"I cant believe that peoples lives are so boring that they are obsessed with the utterly mundane happenings of other human beings."


but you are all totally mesmerised by the mundane happenings of celebs
plastic brained, plastic faced (and boobed) nonentities, whos importance to society falls WAY below that of even the humble dustman, and yet who con people just lie you into providing them with the millionaire life style...

and YET...you see fit to criticise a mum who dealt strongly with an issue, which, lets face it is important in socialising the savages that we produce....

Have a Thanks

Lord Foul wrote:@Eddie,syl and the rest

Syl said


"I cant believe that peoples lives are so boring that they are obsessed with the utterly mundane happenings of other human beings."


but you are all totally mesmerised by the mundane happenings of celebs
plastic brained, plastic faced (and boobed) nonentities, whos importance to society falls WAY below that of even the humble dustman, and yet who con people just lie you into providing them with the millionaire life style...

and YET...you see fit to criticise a mum who dealt strongly with an issue, which, lets face it is important in socialising the savages that we produce....

I agree parents should teach their kids manners, it's a given....not sure why the parent has to crow about it on social media though, like they have done something...well...interesting, they have just parented, why the need to broadcast it??

As for the 'mundane happenings of celebs'....just as boring really. But sometimes light hearted threads are a nice change from the more serious stuff.

Syl wrote:

Lord Foul wrote:@Eddie,syl and the rest

Syl said


"I cant believe that peoples lives are so boring that they are obsessed with the utterly mundane happenings of other human beings."


but you are all totally mesmerised by the mundane happenings of celebs
plastic brained, plastic faced (and boobed) nonentities, whos importance to society falls WAY below that of even the humble dustman, and yet who con people just lie you into providing them with the millionaire life style...

and YET...you see fit to criticise a mum who dealt strongly with an issue, which, lets face it is important in socialising the savages that we produce....

I agree parents should teach their kids manners, it's a given....not sure why the parent has to crow about it on social media though, like they have done something...well...interesting, they have just parented, why the need to broadcast it??

As for the 'mundane happenings of celebs'....just as boring really. But sometimes light hearted threads are a nice change from the more serious stuff.

Maybe she was feeling a twinge of guilt and looking for some support. Disappointed kids can make you feel really bad.

Original Quill wrote:

Syl wrote:

I agree parents should teach their kids manners, it's a given....not sure why the parent has to crow about it on social media though, like they have done something...well...interesting, they have just parented, why the need to broadcast it??

As for the 'mundane happenings of celebs'....just as boring really. But sometimes light hearted threads are a nice change from the more serious stuff.

Maybe she was feeling a twinge of guilt and looking for some support.  Disappointed kids can make you feel really bad.

Good point, which is why this social media obsession is interesting even if the dribble posted is not.

I find it fascinating that so many people nowadays need the approval and validation from strangers on the net that what they are doing is right/interesting/socially acceptable..
Are people today so lacking in confidence that they need 3000 likes (or whatever) to make them feel good about themselves?

Syl wrote:

Original Quill wrote:

Maybe she was feeling a twinge of guilt and looking for some support.  Disappointed kids can make you feel really bad.

Good point, which is why this social media obsession is interesting even if the dribble posted is not.

I find it fascinating that so many people nowadays  need the approval and validation from strangers on the net that what they are doing is right/interesting/socially acceptable..
Are people today so lacking in confidence that they need 3000 likes (or whatever) to make them feel good about themselves?

People have always needed approval even before social media, it just happened in places of where people congregated like Churches.
Look back to the time when you were younger and even if you ventured into such places where you had the woman who always made the point of lighting every single candle as if to empathize her faith to everyone there. Or the mother who was outside the priests house doing their garden. The social clubs, where mothers tried to out do each other who was best at raising their children by what clothes or car they had. All that has changed is the means to communicate far quicker and more often.

Nothing else has really changed

Syl wrote:I find it fascinating that so many people nowadays need the approval and validation from strangers on the net that what they are doing is right/interesting/socially acceptable..
Are people today so lacking in confidence that they need 3000 likes (or whatever) to make them feel good about themselves?

I do think people were always like that...and then social media came along. And I like social media...I like the positive things it does.

didge wrote:

Syl wrote:

Good point, which is why this social media obsession is interesting even if the dribble posted is not.

I find it fascinating that so many people nowadays  need the approval and validation from strangers on the net that what they are doing is right/interesting/socially acceptable..
Are people today so lacking in confidence that they need 3000 likes (or whatever) to make them feel good about themselves?

People have always needed approval even before social media, it just happened in places of where people congregated like Churches.
Look back to the time when you were younger and even if you ventured into such places where you had the woman who always made the point of lighting every single candle as if to empathize her faith to everyone there. Or the mother who was outside the priests house doing their garden. The social clubs, where mothers tried to out do each other who was best at raising their children by what clothes or car they had. All that has changed is the means to communicate far quicker and more often.

Nothing else has really changed

It has changed though.

I agree that people have always needed approval, we are social animals and we all want to fit in. So we get the approval from our families, our peers, the people who know us from the communities we live in. We get that approval, learn from it, maneuvre it to suit our lifestyles....then go out and live it instead of talking about it all the time.

Who cares what a stranger who neither knows nor cares thinks about us? Why do we need their approval? Why should it interest us what they think?

It's all so false imo.

Syl wrote:

didge wrote:


People have always needed approval even before social media, it just happened in places of where people congregated like Churches.
Look back to the time when you were younger and even if you ventured into such places where you had the woman who always made the point of lighting every single candle as if to empathize her faith to everyone there. Or the mother who was outside the priests house doing their garden. The social clubs, where mothers tried to out do each other who was best at raising their children by what clothes or car they had. All that has changed is the means to communicate far quicker and more often.

Nothing else has really changed

It has changed though.

I agree that people have always needed approval, we are social animals and we all want to fit in. So we get the approval from our families, our peers, the people who know us from the communities we live in. We get that approval, learn from it, maneuvre it to suit our lifestyles....then go out and live it instead of talking about it all the time.

Who cares what a stranger who neither knows nor cares thinks about us? Why do we need their approval? Why should it interest us what they think?

It's all so false imo.

It has not changed though then has it. Only the speed and communication for it to be far more interactive
That is the only real change, but this woman was not looking for sympathy, but to call out an issue she faced which many parents face when dealing with children. She wanted to share that. What harm is there is that? Maybe she wanted approval for her actions, because she then is highly critical of herself over her actions.
Did you think of that?
If she is, then that says more about her character than anything else, she is willing then to admit she might have been wrong by her actions

Original Quill wrote:

Syl wrote:I find it fascinating that so many people nowadays need the approval and validation from strangers on the net that what they are doing is right/interesting/socially acceptable..
Are people today so lacking in confidence that they need 3000 likes (or whatever) to make them feel good about themselves?

I do think people were always like that...and then social media came along.  And I like social media...I like the positive things it does.

There are definitely some positives....like the little lad who had his new bike snatched off him by two bigger bullies, within a few hours the CCTV which had been posted online had had over one million views and people had collected more than enough to replace his stolen bike....plus the video of the two thieves was seen by a million people.

Syl wrote:

didge wrote:

Syl wrote:

Good point, which is why this social media obsession is interesting even if the dribble posted is not.

I find it fascinating that so many people nowadays  need the approval and validation from strangers on the net that what they are doing is right/interesting/socially acceptable..
Are people today so lacking in confidence that they need 3000 likes (or whatever) to make them feel good about themselves?

People have always needed approval even before social media, it just happened in places of where people congregated like Churches.
Look back to the time when you were younger and even if you ventured into such places where you had the woman who always made the point of lighting every single candle as if to empathize her faith to everyone there. Or the mother who was outside the priests house doing their garden. The social clubs, where mothers tried to out do each other who was best at raising their children by what clothes or car they had. All that has changed is the means to communicate far quicker and more often.

Nothing else has really changed

It has changed though.

I agree that people have always needed approval, we are social animals and we all want to fit in. So we get the approval from our families, our peers, the people who know us from the communities we live in. We get that approval, learn from it, maneuvre it to suit our lifestyles....then go out and live it instead of talking about it all the time.

Who cares what a stranger who neither knows nor cares thinks about us? Why do we need their approval? Why should it interest us what they think?

It's all so false imo.

GOOD POINT.....NOW....apply that "in reverse"

why should I care about what happens to someone living 2000 miles away...to the point I'm expected to welcome them into this country, support them and even put up with and pander to their primitive religious urges

didge wrote:

Syl wrote:

It has changed though.

I agree that people have always needed approval, we are social animals and we all want to fit in. So we get the approval from our families, our peers, the people who know us from the communities we live in. We get that approval, learn from it, maneuvre it to suit our lifestyles....then go out and live it instead of talking about it all the time.

Who cares what a stranger who neither knows nor cares thinks about us? Why do we need their approval? Why should it interest us what they think?

It's all so false imo.

It has not changed though then has it. Only the speed and communication for it to be far more interactive
That is the only real change, but this woman was not looking for sympathy, but to call out an issue she faced which many parents face when dealing with children. She wanted to share that. What harm is there is that? Maybe she wanted approval for her actions, because she then is highly critical of herself over her actions.
Did you think of that?
If she is, then that says more about her character than anything else, she is willing then to admit she might have been wrong by her actions

Yes it has changed.

Why does anyone need the approval of total strangers in regard to bringing her kids up?

Maybe she does feel like she made a mistake...so what, the only harm done was she wasted her money.
Next time she will know better....even without a million nods of approval that she is a good or bad mother.

I wasn't that bothered about the woman posting it up actually, I made the comment but my main point is still this:

So the kids forgot to say thank you. And???
Gentle reminder and they'd have remembered.

No need for the military bullying.
The punishment do not fit the crime and she was unsure, as someone pointed out, so sought reassurance via social media.

And my answer to her: the punishment did not fit the crime and you feel a bit bad, don't you?

eddie wrote:I wasn't that bothered about the woman posting it up actually, I made the comment but my main point is still this:

So the kids forgot to say thank you. And???
Gentle reminder and they'd have remembered.

No need for the military bullying.
The punishment do not fit the crime and she was unsure, as someone pointed out, so sought reassurance via social media.

And my answer to her: the punishment did not fit the crime and you feel a bit bad, don't you?

So your kid said someone had smelly feet at a party, and?

Its lucky some of us dont think and? but actually listen to your day and try to make it feel that much better Eddie, when it has been trying

Now maybe you might see how she felt, because what did you do after such a day if not post here?

What a waste of ice cream ...

Lord Foul wrote:

Syl wrote:

It has changed though.

I agree that people have always needed approval, we are social animals and we all want to fit in. So we get the approval from our families, our peers, the people who know us from the communities we live in. We get that approval, learn from it, maneuvre it to suit our lifestyles....then go out and live it instead of talking about it all the time.

Who cares what a stranger who neither knows nor cares thinks about us? Why do we need their approval? Why should it interest us what they think?

It's all so false imo.

GOOD POINT.....NOW....apply that "in reverse"

why should I care about what happens to someone living 2000 miles away...to the point I'm expected to welcome them into this country, support them and even put up with and pander to their primitive religious urges

Well if that's how you feel that's how you feel.
Why do you need the approval of a stranger on the net to either agree or disagree with you??

Syl wrote:

didge wrote:

It has not changed though then has it. Only the speed and communication for it to be far more interactive
That is the only real change, but this woman was not looking for sympathy, but to call out an issue she faced which many parents face when dealing with children. She wanted to share that. What harm is there is that? Maybe she wanted approval for her actions, because she then is highly critical of herself over her actions.
Did you think of that?
If she is, then that says more about her character than anything else, she is willing then to admit she might have been wrong by her actions

Yes it has changed.

Why does anyone need the approval of total strangers in regard to bringing her kids up?

Maybe she does feel like she made a mistake...so what, the only harm done was she wasted her money.
Next time she will know better....even  without a million nods of approval that she is a good or bad mother.

Do you not ever come home after a hard day and share your feelings about that day with others?

Why then do you do so?

If you do why are you knocking others for also doing so?

Syl wrote:

Lord Foul wrote:

Syl wrote:

It has changed though.

I agree that people have always needed approval, we are social animals and we all want to fit in. So we get the approval from our families, our peers, the people who know us from the communities we live in. We get that approval, learn from it, maneuvre it to suit our lifestyles....then go out and live it instead of talking about it all the time.

Who cares what a stranger who neither knows nor cares thinks about us? Why do we need their approval? Why should it interest us what they think?

It's all so false imo.

GOOD POINT.....NOW....apply that "in reverse"

why should I care about what happens to someone living 2000 miles away...to the point I'm expected to welcome them into this country, support them and even put up with and pander to their primitive religious urges

Well if that's how you feel that's how you feel.
Why do you need the approval of a stranger on the net to either agree or disagree with you??

you make the mistake of thinking that I actually give a f**k what people think...I dont...I seek neither approval nor disagreement...but since we are on a "forum which discusses such things", arguing my point is valid......

didge wrote:

Syl wrote:

Yes it has changed.

Why does anyone need the approval of total strangers in regard to bringing her kids up?

Maybe she does feel like she made a mistake...so what, the only harm done was she wasted her money.
Next time she will know better....even  without a million nods of approval that she is a good or bad mother.

Do you not ever come how after a hard day and share your feelings about that day with others?

Why then do you do so?

If you do why are you knocking others for also doing so?

There is a difference between a small forum and facebook, which when a post like this womans is published is seen by millions of total strangers.
Also I don't look for approval or disapproval, this woman is.

I am more interested in the fact that millions of people post trivia on social media sites and millions of people 'follow' every word they say.
Mostly items posted on a forum such as this one are either newsworthy or interesting to someone....can you say the same about facebook and twitter??
Getting up now....got up, drinking my coffee.... been a mean mum today, this is a pic of me after I have been a mean mum......

Syl wrote:

didge wrote:

Do you not ever come how after a hard day and share your feelings about that day with others?

Why then do you do so?

If you do why are you knocking others for also doing so?

There is a difference between a small forum and facebook, which when a post like this womans is published is seen by millions of total strangers.
Also I don't look for approval or disapproval, this woman is.

I am more interested in the fact that millions of people post trivia on social media sites and millions of people 'follow' every word they say.
Mostly items posted on a forum such as this one are either newsworthy or interesting to someone....can you say the same about facebook and twitter??
Getting up now....got up, drinking my coffee.... been a mean mum today, this is a pic of me after I have been a mean mum......

You failed to understand methodology

You both either speak,text or put up things in your life on social media, through the phone or computer etc.
That is sharing your feelings seeking others to express their views and offer back advice.
You would not do so if not for needing reassurance or guidance.
We all do this when we are unsure.
Its what is human nature, because we can and do question are actions
So to argue off numbers which is all you are doing over doing the exactly same things is not only poor but completely hypocritical

Lord Foul wrote:

Syl wrote:

Well if that's how you feel that's how you feel.
Why do you need the approval of a stranger on the net to either agree or disagree with you??

you make the mistake of thinking that I actually give a f**k what people think...I dont...I seek neither approval nor disagreement...but since we are on a "forum which discusses such things", arguing my point is valid......

Well you asked .."why should I care"....simple answer ..you shouldn't, and apparently you don't.
Which makes you the exact opposite of the woman in the OP.

eddie wrote:Or she could've just reminded them "Erm...excuse me, but what do you say to that lady?" and they'd have said "thank you!"

Happy lady
Happy kids
Happy mum.....

Hold on, wait....not a happy mum, becasue she'd have had nothing to write about on Facebook

She must know that her kids normally say thanks but on this instance they were excited to "tuck into" their ice cream... A gentle reminder would have sufficed.

If her kids never say thanks then yes, she's the world's meanest mother and an attention-seeker to boot.

Ps: did she says "thank you" to the lady??
Bet she bloody didn't!

Totally agree, she didn't have to go over the top like that.

Ben_Reilly wrote:

eddie wrote:Or she could've just reminded them "Erm...excuse me, but what do you say to that lady?" and they'd have said "thank you!"

Happy lady
Happy kids
Happy mum.....

Hold on, wait....not a happy mum, becasue she'd have had nothing to write about on Facebook

She must know that her kids normally say thanks but on this instance they were excited to "tuck into" their ice cream... A gentle reminder would have sufficed.

If her kids never say thanks then yes, she's the world's meanest mother and an attention-seeker to boot.

Ps: did she says "thank you" to the lady??
Bet she bloody didn't!

Totally agree, she didn't have to go over the top like that.

But would you have done the same iff disappointed, now only able to judge in hindsight?
Can you actually see and place yourself with emphatic intelligence or where you have acted thinking you have done the right thing. To only as seen here question it later by placing it up for others to say their views?
How is there really a right answer to something you have never faced yourself?

didge wrote:

Syl wrote:

There is a difference between a small forum and facebook, which when a post like this womans is published is seen by millions of total strangers.
Also I don't look for approval or disapproval, this woman is.

I am more interested in the fact that millions of people post trivia on social media sites and millions of people 'follow' every word they say.
Mostly items posted on a forum such as this one are either newsworthy or interesting to someone....can you say the same about facebook and twitter??
Getting up now....got up, drinking my coffee.... been a mean mum today, this is a pic of me after I have been a mean mum......

You failed to understand methodology

You both either speak,text or put up things in your life on social media, through the phone or computer etc.
That is sharing your feelings seeking others to express their views and offer back advice.
You would not do so if not for needing reassurance or guidance.
We all do this when we are unsure.
Its what is human nature, because we can and do question are actions
So to argue off numbers which is all you are doing over doing the exactly same things is not only poor but completely hypocritical

And you it seems fail to understand English.

Once more....it has never been necessary for human beings to want the approval of strangers....forget the numbers....the fact is people now seem to need the reassurance of people who don't give a toss about them....why?

Texting is another issue.
Unfortunately people now live their lives through little hand held gadgets, and in doing so miss whats actually happening in the REAL world.

Syl wrote:

didge wrote:


You failed to understand methodology

You both either speak,text or put up things in your life on social media, through the phone or computer etc.
That is sharing your feelings seeking others to express their views and offer back advice.
You would not do so if not for needing reassurance or guidance.
We all do this when we are unsure.
Its what is human nature, because we can and do question are actions
So to argue off numbers which is all you are doing over doing the exactly same things is not only poor but completely hypocritical

And you it seems fail to understand English.

Once more....it has never been necessary for human beings to want the approval of strangers....forget the numbers....the fact is people now seem to need the reassurance of people who don't give a toss about them....why?

Texting is another issue.
Unfortunately people now live their lives through little hand held gadgets, and in doing so miss whats actually happening in the REAL world.

Then if its never necessary for the need to be accepted or approval, then why did you come into this world?
Answer me that?
If you did not need approval, you have no need and want of love, as approval is a part of love fundamentally.
Are you going to tell me you have never loved now and not wanted that love shared back.
If you are, then you are lying
You like others will hit out and share that with friends, you have no idea if they will tell others, of which no doubt many people do also.
It matters not on numbers, the fact is you do share with others, just as she did, that is what you fail to grasp and yet you judge her for doing exactly what you do.
Double standards

didge wrote:

Syl wrote:

And you it seems fail to understand English.

Once more....it has never been necessary for human beings to want the approval of strangers....forget the numbers....the fact is people now seem to need the reassurance of people who don't give a toss about them....why?

Texting is another issue.
Unfortunately people now live their lives through little hand held gadgets, and in doing so miss whats actually happening in the REAL world.

Then if its never necessary for the need to be accepted or approval, then why did you come into this world?
Answer me that?
If you did not need approval, you have no need and want of love, as approval is a part of love fundamentally.
Are you going to tell me you have never loved now and not wanted that love shared back.
If you are, then you are lying
You like others will hit out and share that with friends, you have no idea if they will tell others, of which no doubt many people do also.
It matters not on numbers, the fact is you do share with others, just as she did, that is what you fail to grasp and yet you judge her for doing exactly what you do.
Double standards

Do you have your next post ready irregardless of what the last response to you was Didge?

I have already stated people need approval from their PEERS, from people in their FAMILY and in their own COMMUNITIES.

Yes obviously I talk to friends and no doubt some of that gets passed on....that's nothing to do with what we are talking about though is it?

I am saying that it is a new phenomina that so many people need the approval of total strangers re every aspect of their lives.
The key words here are total strangers....you know, those people who dont give a shite whether you are alive or dead.

Syl wrote:

didge wrote:


Then if its never necessary for the need to be accepted or approval, then why did you come into this world?
Answer me that?
If you did not need approval, you have no need and want of love, as approval is a part of love fundamentally.
Are you going to tell me you have never loved now and not wanted that love shared back.
If you are, then you are lying
You like others will hit out and share that with friends, you have no idea if they will tell others, of which no doubt many people do also.
It matters not on numbers, the fact is you do share with others, just as she did, that is what you fail to grasp and yet you judge her for doing exactly what you do.
Double standards

Do you have your next post ready irregardless of what the last response to you was Didge?

I have already stated people need approval from their PEERS, from people in their FAMILY and in their own COMMUNITIES.

Yes obviously I talk to friends and no doubt some of that gets passed on....that's nothing to do with what we are talking about though is it?

I am saying that it is a new phenomina that so many people need the approval of total strangers re every aspect of their lives.
The key words here are total strangers....you know, those people who dont give a shite whether you are alive or dead.

You mean I am always thinking one step ahead of others?
No, more like 5 as in chess.

It has every thing to do with the fact you wish to share your problems.
All that is different here is numbers and how well known.
The later is then based on how well we care if others known.
I would say the more someone is not afraid the more people know, is courage in itself.
They are not afraid to then be judge by those not their friends.
That takes guts, as she knowingly places herself to be judged
There is no new phenomenon.
Only they can communicate that much faster now

You cant be one step ahead when you are the only one in that particular race.

Decent communication is when one person speaks (or writes) and the other one responds to what they have said (written)

I dispute that most people (most of the time) write on a forum because they need validation on how clever or good they are.
Obviously sometimes more personal threads are posted....that just makes a well rounded forum though imo.

The only time I can think of where anyone needs other posters approval is if a poll is posted (should I stay or go sort of question) and even that was done as a joke apparently.

Syl wrote:You cant be one step ahead when you are the only one in that particular race.

Decent communication is when one person speaks (or writes) and the other one responds to what they have said (written)

I dispute that most people (most of the time) write on a forum because they need validation on how clever or good they are.
Obviously sometimes more personal threads are posted....that just makes a well rounded forum though imo.

The only time I can think of where anyone needs other posters approval is if a poll is posted (should I stay or go sort of question) and even that was done as a joke apparently.

We area all one race biologically, so being that I am part of the same human race, clearly I can.
You then offer your own subjective view on "decent" communication as if there is some etiquette on communication.
That is just elitist bullshit.
The reason racism and dictatorships is based on that same daft principle, who and what is right on something mundane as texting or social media, as if inferior.
Seriously, who made you that judge, when nobody is then judging you off that exact same thing?
You are telling me you have never ever needed approval of love?

Syl wrote:You cant be one step ahead when you are the only one in that particular race.

Decent communication is when one person speaks (or writes) and the other one responds to what they have said (written)

I dispute that most people (most of the time) write on a forum because they need validation on how clever or good they are.
Obviously sometimes more personal threads are posted....that just makes a well rounded forum though imo.

The only time I can think of where anyone needs other posters approval is if a poll is posted (should I stay or go sort of question) and even that was done as a joke apparently.

Didge wrote....

We area all one race biologically, so being that I am part of the same human race, clearly I can.
You then offer your own subjective view on "decent" communication as if there is some etiquette on communication.
That is just elitist bullshit.
The reason racism and dictatorships is based on that same daft principle, who and what is right on something mundane as texting or social media, as if inferior.
Seriously, who made you that judge, when nobody is then judging you off that exact same thing?
You are telling me you have never ever needed approval of love?[/quote]



Read my bloody posts will you....I have answered that remark twice.

You  use the word  'decent' not me....it's nether decent nor indecent....just plain old boring.

But I was looking at the bigger picture and asking the question WHY so many people need the admiration and approval of strangers re their everyday lives....you cant seem to answer that.[/quote]

(sorry...messed the quote up)

Syl wrote:
Read my bloody posts will you....I have answered that remark twice.

You  use the word  'decent' not me....it's nether decent nor indecent....just plain old boring.

But I was looking at the bigger picture and asking the question WHY so many people need the admiration and approval of strangers re their everyday lives....you cant seem to answer that.

Why are you getting aggressive?
Why would asking about love make you aggressive?
The only reason is because we feel pain with love
That is not knocking but seeing it pains you.
Stop being so defensive, as you have no need to be.
If you hate people telling others how they feel, then why do you do so the same?
If you can live without the need of others, then you have no reason to have friends.
You can live in harmony without opinion

didge wrote:

Syl wrote:
Read my bloody posts will you....I have answered that remark twice.

You  use the word  'decent' not me....it's nether decent nor indecent....just plain old boring.

But I was looking at the bigger picture and asking the question WHY so many people need the admiration and approval of strangers re their everyday lives....you cant seem to answer that.

Why are you getting aggressive?
Why would asking about love make you aggressive?
The only reason is because we feel pain with love
That is not knocking but seeing it pains you.
Stop being so defensive, as you have no need to be.
If you hate people telling others how they feel, then why do you do so the same?
If you can live without the need of others, then you have no reason to have friends.
You can live in harmony without opinion

I'm not aggressive....it's just an expression. But you are using that to detract from the fact that you are not replying to what I actually write and obviously not even reading them.....hence your last post.

Syl wrote:

didge wrote:


Why are you getting aggressive?
Why would asking about love make you aggressive?
The only reason is because we feel pain with love
That is not knocking but seeing it pains you.
Stop being so defensive, as you have no need to be.
If you hate people telling others how they feel, then why do you do so the same?
If you can live without the need of others, then you have no reason to have friends.
You can live in harmony without opinion

I'm not aggressive....it's just an expression.  But you are using that to detract from the fact that you are not replying to what I actually write and obviously not even reading them.....hence your last post.

Its no distraction, even your manner of writing gives that away Syl
I have read your replies, its only you stalling everytime answering mine

didge wrote:

Syl wrote:

I'm not aggressive....it's just an expression.  But you are using that to detract from the fact that you are not replying to what I actually write and obviously not even reading them.....hence your last post.

Its no distraction, even your manner of writing gives that away Syl
I have read your replies, its only you stalling everytime answering mine

My manner of writing is the same as always.

Didge, why do you always try to put people on the defence? It's a ploy some people use to try to win an argument but it seldom works.
Had you read my replies you would have seen I answered twice the question you asked about needing approval....try reading the answers, digesting them, and moving forwards sensibly.

Syl wrote:

didge wrote:

Its no distraction, even your manner of writing gives that away Syl
I have read your replies, its only you stalling everytime answering mine

My manner of writing is the same as always.

Didge, why do you always try to put people on the defence? It's a ploy some people use to try to win an argument but it seldom works.
Had you read my replies you would have seen I answered twice the question you asked about needing approval....try reading the answers, digesting them, and moving forwards sensibly.  

No, I do not always try to put them on the defensive Syl
I did not even use it here Syl. As I simply placed you in a situation you could never get out of.
Living your own life

didge wrote:

Syl wrote:

My manner of writing is the same as always.

Didge, why do you always try to put people on the defence? It's a ploy some people use to try to win an argument but it seldom works.
Had you read my replies you would have seen I answered twice the question you asked about needing approval....try reading the answers, digesting them, and moving forwards sensibly.  

No, I do not always try to put them on the defensive Syl
I did not even use it here Syl. As I simply placed you in a situation you could never get out of.
Living your own life

You do Didge...often, it's a ploy to take the heat out of your own weak arguments when someone disagrees with you.

As for you placing me anywhere....

Syl wrote:

didge wrote:

No, I do not always try to put them on the defensive Syl
I did not even use it here Syl. As I simply placed you in a situation you could never get out of.
Living your own life

You do Didge...often, it's a ploy to take the heat out of your own weak arguments when someone disagrees with you.

As for you placing me anywhere....

That is up to you to think that, but ask yourself why are you being defensive, when I'm not actually attacking you?

And the bigger question remains unanswered...why do so may people need the approval and admiration of total strangers who don't give a toss about them?

Syl wrote:And the bigger question remains unanswered...why do so may people need the approval of total strangers who don't give a toss about them?

Why do you need to talk to anyone else about your day or night, if you do not need approval for your actions?

Syl wrote:And the bigger question remains unanswered...why do so may people need the approval and admiration of total strangers who don't give a toss about them?

Insecurity I guess?

I only care what I think, my family thinks, and a few select people who's opnions I truly respect.

didge wrote:

Syl wrote:And the bigger question remains unanswered...why do so may people need the approval of total strangers who don't give a toss about them?

Why do you need to talk to anyone else about your day or night, if you do not need approval for your actions?

What?