'Paralyzed Bride' uses sexy photos to challenge attitudes about disability

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Disabled and sexy. The two words are rarely seen together, according to Rachelle Chapman, who decided to change that with a racy photo shoot. Five years after being paralyzed from the chest down following an accident at her bachelorette party, the 29-year-old North Carolina wife and new mom known worldwide as the "paralyzed bride" now wants to be known as something else: a sexy, young woman.
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In a series of professional boudoir photographs she released on her Facebook page to encourage people to see beyond her wheelchair, Chapman poses in nothing but lacy lingerie. She hopes the photos will help people see the romantic potential of people with disabilities. "With these images, I'm saying, this is who I am, this is what I look like, this is what I feel like. I'm still sexy, I'm still a woman, I can still be intimate, but I'm still the exact same person when I get in my chair every morning," she told ODAY.com. "It was a good, positive image to show who I am and what I look like and give a different face to disability." It took a long time before Chapman felt confident enough to both take the photos and share them with the public.




On May 23, 2010, Chapman fell into a swimming pool after being playfully pushed by one of her bridesmaids. She fractured the C6 vertebra in her neck. "After an injury like this, you wonder how can you be sexy and intimate again, and I think after five years, I've figured it out," she said. "I'm happy as I can be, and I want to show other women, not only in my exact situation but also anyone who thinks there's something 'wrong' with them, that's not who they are. I don't like the disability that I have, at all, but my disability is not who I am."




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Have a good day people.

Raggamuffin wrote:

Cuchulain wrote:

I am not presuming to know any just this one who you castigated for how she feels good about herself and yet you judged her for it.
That is bitterness a poor trait you have where others are happy

Yes, but she's claiming she's doing it for other woman, not just for herself. I think it's attention seeking either way tbh. I don't see why I shouldn't say that just because she's disabled.

She is doing for other disabled women, so do you know how that feels?
No
She does, you do not
I thinbk you have an inability to understand how others feel it seems

Raggamuffin wrote:

Cuchulain wrote:

So you are dragging up old comments to excuse your ignorance here?
Seriously how desperate are you when losing a debate?
Any comment said like that was poor of me. so bang goes your poor defense

It was Sassy who mentioned your comment about saggy breasts actually, but she did make a good point. If this woman was 40 years older, would you be so impressed?

Not surpirse she did she always shit stirs and is quite pathetic.
She I have no sympathy for because she is scum, just like she felt when Maggie died

Cuchulain wrote:

Raggamuffin wrote:

Yes, but she's claiming she's doing it for other woman, not just for herself. I think it's attention seeking either way tbh. I don't see why I shouldn't say that just because she's disabled.

She is doing for other disabled women, so do you know how that feels?
No
She does, you do not
I thinbk you have an inability to understand how others feel it seems

Do you know how it feels to be a woman?


Don't answer that.

She does not know, she only knows how it feels to be herself.

Cuchulain wrote:

Raggamuffin wrote:

It was Sassy who mentioned your comment about saggy breasts actually, but she did make a good point. If this woman was 40 years older, would you be so impressed?

Not surpirse she did she always shit stirs and is quite pathetic.
She I have no sympathy for because she is scum, just like she felt when Maggie died

It was a good point though. You do judge women on how they look, or how you think they look.

Raggamuffin wrote:

Cuchulain wrote:

She is doing for other disabled women, so do you know how that feels?
No
She does, you do not
I thinbk you have an inability to understand how others feel it seems

Do you know how it feels to be a woman?


Don't answer that.

She does not know, she only knows how it feels to be herself.

Copout answer again.

I have no idea how she feels to be disabled.

Do you?

Raggamuffin wrote:

Cuchulain wrote:

Not surpirse she did she always shit stirs and is quite pathetic.
She I have no sympathy for because she is scum, just like she felt when Maggie died

It was a good point though. You do judge women on how they look, or how you think they look.

Its a shite point and its pathetic deflective bollocks
She is scum and she jumped for joy over someone dying.
How scummy is that.

Cuchulain wrote:

Raggamuffin wrote:

Do you know how it feels to be a woman?


Don't answer that.

She does not know, she only knows how it feels to be herself.

Copout answer again.

I have no idea how she feels to be disabled.

Do you?

Well then why are you speaking for her?

Cuchulain wrote:

Raggamuffin wrote:

It was a good point though. You do judge women on how they look, or how you think they look.

Its a shite point and its pathetic deflective bollocks
She is scum and she jumped for joy over someone dying.
How scummy is that.

Well no, because you made a similar comment about me being "ugly".

Raggamuffin wrote:

Cuchulain wrote:

Copout answer again.

I have no idea how she feels to be disabled.

Do you?

Well then why are you speaking for her?

Copout answer agaian
Nope I am backing her actions

Cuchulain wrote:

Raggamuffin wrote:

Well then why are you speaking for her?

Copout answer agaian
Nope I am backing her actions

Well you would, wouldn't you?

Raggamuffin wrote:

Cuchulain wrote:

Its a shite point and its pathetic deflective bollocks
She is scum and she jumped for joy over someone dying.
How scummy is that.

Well no, because you made a similar comment about me being "ugly".

Copout answer again

To me in many cases your views are ugly.

So anything on my points oir are you do a Twatty and deflecting and wasting my time?

Cuchulain wrote:

Raggamuffin wrote:

Well no, because you made a similar comment about me being "ugly".

Copout answer again

To me in many cases your views are ugly.

So anything on my points oir are you do a Twatty and deflecting and wasting my time?

Oh, you meant physically ugly, so don't pretend you didn't ...

Raggamuffin wrote:

Cuchulain wrote:

Copout answer agaian
Nope I am backing her actions

Well you would, wouldn't you?

Boring.
Let me know when youy want to debate again

Raggamuffin wrote:

Cuchulain wrote:

Copout answer again

To me in many cases your views are ugly.

So anything on my points oir are you do a Twatty and deflecting and wasting my time?

Oh, you meant physically ugly, so don't pretend you didn't ...

No your views are very ugly, which makes you an ugly person dear


Hilarious attempt to get yourself out of a hole I must say

Your views are very ugly love

Cuchulain wrote:

Raggamuffin wrote:

Oh, you meant physically ugly, so don't pretend you didn't ...

No your views are very ugly, which makes you an ugly person dear


Hilarious attempt to get yourself out of a hole I must say

Your views are very ugly love

I see you are pretending you didn't mean physically ugly.

When you decide to be honest, maybe we can debate again ...

Raggamuffin wrote:

Cuchulain wrote:

No your views are very ugly, which makes you an ugly person dear


Hilarious attempt to get yourself out of a hole I must say

Your views are very ugly love

I see you are pretending you didn't mean physically ugly.

When you decide to be honest, maybe we can debate again ...

Well I am sure that ugly views even make someone pretty look ugly.

Have you never heard that before?

Cuchulain wrote:

Raggamuffin wrote:

I see you are pretending you didn't mean physically ugly.

When you decide to be honest, maybe we can debate again ...

Well I am sure that ugly views even make someone pretty look ugly.

Have you never heard that before?

Don't bother Didge. You're sexist and you judge woman based on what they look like. This is why you like those pictures, not because she's disabled ...

Raggamuffin wrote:

Cuchulain wrote:

Well I am sure that ugly views even make someone pretty look ugly.

Have you never heard that before?

Don't bother Didge. You're sexist and you judge woman based on what they look like. This is why you like those pictures, not because she's disabled ...

Ha ha ha ha ha

Except you are being sexist here on your views not I.
I respect her stance, and its you that does not making you sexists dear Rags.

Please spare me your pathetic excuses.
I just make you look again a tiit and you still drag out looking one.

On your head be it

Cuchulain wrote:

Raggamuffin wrote:

Don't bother Didge. You're sexist and you judge woman based on what they look like. This is why you like those pictures, not because she's disabled ...

Ha ha ha ha ha

Except you are being sexist here on your views not I.
I respect her stance, and its you that does not making you sexists dear Rags.

Please spare me your pathetic excuses.
I just make you look again a tiit and you still drag out looking one.

On your head be it

There's no need to bring breasts into it again Didge.

Honestly, you're obsessed ...

Raggamuffin wrote:

Cuchulain wrote:

Ha ha ha ha ha

Except you are being sexist here on your views not I.
I respect her stance, and its you that does not making you sexists dear Rags.

Please spare me your pathetic excuses.
I just make you look again a tiit and you still drag out looking one.

On your head be it

There's no need to bring breasts into it again Didge.

Honestly, you're obsessed ...

Copout and another debate I just spanked you with Rags as you now offer pitiful posts in reply ha ha ha ha

Cuchulain wrote:

Raggamuffin wrote:

There's no need to bring breasts into it again Didge.

Honestly, you're obsessed ...

Copout and another debate I just spanked you with Rags as you now offer pitiful posts in reply ha ha ha ha

Spanked?

This gets worse and worse ...

Raggamuffin wrote:Who is she trying to impress? Men? She's married, so why would she want to impress other men?

Is she trying to impress women? Is she saying - hey ladies, if you're in a wheelchair, you too can look as sexy as me.

I see it more as a way of her promoting a disibilty as not a necesaarly bad thing?
She's trying to be a good role model for other disabled women.

It's a good thing surely?

Raggamuffin wrote:

Cuchulain wrote:

Raggamuffin wrote:

I see you are pretending you didn't mean physically ugly.

When you decide to be honest, maybe we can debate again ...

Well I am sure that ugly views even make someone pretty look ugly.

Have you never heard that before?

Don't bother Didge. You're sexist and you judge woman based on what they look like. This is why you like those pictures, not because she's disabled ...

Think that's a tad unfair.
Didge is getting on my nerves today but I don't think that's a fair assumption rags.

eddie wrote:

Raggamuffin wrote:Who is she trying to impress? Men? She's married, so why would she want to impress other men?

Is she trying to impress women? Is she saying - hey ladies, if you're in a wheelchair, you too can look as sexy as me.

I see it more as a way of her promoting a disibilty as not a necesaarly bad thing?
She's trying to be a good role model for other disabled women.

It's a good thing surely?

As I said, if she showed what people in wheelchairs can do, I might agree, but this is just posing in underwear to show off. How is that being a role model for other disabled women, or for any women?

eddie wrote:

Raggamuffin wrote:

Don't bother Didge. You're sexist and you judge woman based on what they look like. This is why you like those pictures, not because she's disabled ...

Think that's a tad unfair.
Didge is getting on my nerves today but I don't think that's a fair assumption rags.

Of course it's fair. He wouldn't be saying all this if she wasn't young with a nice figure or if she was just sitting there with her clothes on.

Feel free to ignore his nasty comments to me of course ...

eddie wrote:

Raggamuffin wrote:

Don't bother Didge. You're sexist and you judge woman based on what they look like. This is why you like those pictures, not because she's disabled ...

Think that's a tad unfair.
Didge is getting on my nerves today but I don't think that's a fair assumption rags.

Do you know what, you have shown me what a selsih prick you are.


Now fuck off Eddie do not ever slimke up to me again making out children are responsible for mistakes and base this on mental health.

Now I truley dispise you as much as I do sassy

Goodnight

Well that went well ...

Raggamuffin wrote:Well that went well ...

He's a nut job sometimes

eddie wrote:

Raggamuffin wrote:Well that went well ...

He's a nut job sometimes

And as seen you are scum who I will now never forgive.

That is the sicillian in me.

Never seen so many lame answers and Eddiue everything I said here i know you agree with,
That is what makes it worse, you are such a lemon sucking up to people

Pathetic
Do not worry not going to bother myself with such two faced idiots as yourself for a whille

I took rags aprt here and all she could do was turn it about me, that is why she is pathetic also


Laters

Cuchulain wrote:

eddie wrote:



He's a nut job sometimes

And as seen you are scum who I will now never forgive.

That is the sicillian in me.

Never seen so many lame answers and Eddiue everything I said here i know you agree with,
That is what makes it worse, you are such a lemon sucking up to people

Pathetic
Do not worry not going to bother myself with such two faced idiots as yourself for a whille

I took rags aprt here and all she could do was turn it about me, that is why she is pathetic also


Laters

You did nothing of the kind. What's wrong with you? You seem to spend your days determined to "take people apart". I didn't like what the woman did, you did like it. Nobody "wins", it's just a discussion.

I am not even sure why he's gone off the deep end tbh?
All I said was that you calling him sexist because of his view in this thread was a tad unfair!?

eddie wrote:I am not even sure why he's gone off the deep end tbh?
All I said was that you calling him sexist because of his view in this thread was a tad unfair!?

Well that's not the only reason I called him sexist. It was also because of his "saggy breasts" comment, and the comments about me and other women on here being "ugly".

Ok well I didn't know that you were referring to that.

Doesnt matter.
He kills debate with his unreasonable and unwarranted behaviour.

eddie wrote:Ok well I didn't know that you were referring to that.

Doesnt matter.
He kills debate with his unreasonable and unwarranted behaviour.

I quite clearly referred to those incidents in my posts. You jumped in and were very quick to have a go at me, whilst completely ignoring his comments in this thread. It kind of backfired against you though.

Raggamuffin wrote:

eddie wrote:Ok well I didn't know that you were referring to that.

Doesnt matter.
He kills debate with his unreasonable and unwarranted behaviour.

I quite clearly referred to those incidents in my posts. You jumped in and were very quick to have a go at me, whilst completely ignoring his comments in this thread. It kind of backfired against you though.

Rags. No matter what I do I seem to be accused of being biased against someone!!
I apologise, I possibly skimmed your post or didn't backroad far enough - I was playing darts in the garden at the same time and texting a friend about tomorrow

I suck at darts.

eddie wrote:

Raggamuffin wrote:

I quite clearly referred to those incidents in my posts. You jumped in and were very quick to have a go at me, whilst completely ignoring his comments in this thread. It kind of backfired against you though.

Rags. No matter what I do I seem to be accused of being biased against someone!!
I apologise, I possibly skimmed your post or didn't backroad far enough - I was playing darts in the garden at the same time and texting a friend about tomorrow

I suck at darts.

It's OK. Try pinning a photo of Didge to the dartboard next time, and your aim might be better.

Raggamuffin wrote:

eddie wrote:

Raggamuffin wrote:

I quite clearly referred to those incidents in my posts. You jumped in and were very quick to have a go at me, whilst completely ignoring his comments in this thread. It kind of backfired against you though.

Rags. No matter what I do I seem to be accused of being biased against someone!!
I apologise, I possibly skimmed your post or didn't backroad far enough - I was playing darts in the garden at the same time and texting a friend about tomorrow

I suck at darts.

It's OK. Try pinning a photo of Didge to the dartboard next time, and your aim might be better.

Hahahahahaha i think that's what my other half does. He always gets the bullseye when I'm not looking

Raggamuffin wrote:

Cuchulain wrote:

And as seen you are scum who I will now never forgive.

That is the sicillian in me.

Never seen so many lame answers and Eddiue everything I said here i know you agree with,
That is what makes it worse, you are such a lemon sucking up to people

Pathetic
Do not worry not going to bother myself with such two faced idiots as yourself for a whille

I took rags aprt here and all she could do was turn it about me, that is why she is pathetic also


Laters

You did nothing of the kind. What's wrong with you? You seem to spend your days determined to "take people apart". I didn't like what the woman did, you did like it. Nobody "wins", it's just a discussion.

You had no views Rags as seen they were taken apart because you fail to consider the view of the indivual themselves.

You do not like many things when people show confidence which is a consistant view you have it seems

I will ignore the whinging from Eddie and yes you are biased as I proved

Raggamuffin wrote:I don't like it.

What the hell is the little deviant putting in the search engine to find these things?!

Nems wrote:

Raggamuffin wrote:I don't like it.

What the hell is the little deviant putting in the search engine to find these things?!

Post reported

Cuchulain wrote:

Nems wrote:

What the hell is the little deviant putting in the search engine to find these things?!

Post reported

So what?
It's a good question.
What do you google to find the things you do ?

Nems wrote:

Cuchulain wrote:

Post reported

So what?
It's a good question.
What do you google to find the things you do ?

If you must know I found this on goodnews huffington post which then linked you to this article.

What is deviant about a woman with disabilities feeling good about how sexy she looks?

So its not a good questions you are as seen trying to stir here after your other thread fell apart.

Cuchulain wrote:

Raggamuffin wrote:

You did nothing of the kind. What's wrong with you? You seem to spend your days determined to "take people apart". I didn't like what the woman did, you did like it. Nobody "wins", it's just a discussion.

You had no views Rags as seen they were taken apart because you fail to consider the view of the indivual themselves.

You do not like many things when people show confidence which is a consistant view you have it seems

I will ignore the whinging from Eddie and yes you are biased as I proved

You mean you just didn't like my views.

Raggamuffin wrote:

Cuchulain wrote:

You had no views Rags as seen they were taken apart because you fail to consider the view of the indivual themselves.

You do not like many things when people show confidence which is a consistant view you have it seems

I will ignore the whinging from Eddie and yes you are biased as I proved

You mean you just didn't like my views.

Your views tend to be on the negative side all the time.
This is about the person themselves combating stigmas, which is very important.

Cuchulain wrote:

Raggamuffin wrote:

You mean you just didn't like my views.

Your views tend to be on the negative side all the time.
This is about the person themselves combating stigmas, which is very important.

My views on this particular thread are also positive because I'm saying that women don't need to prove to anyone that they're sexy, and being sexy isn't as important as some people seem to think it is. That's a positive thing.

I've never heard anyone say - oh, look at that person in a wheelchair, they're so unsexy. Have you?

Raggamuffin wrote:

Cuchulain wrote:

Your views tend to be on the negative side all the time.
This is about the person themselves combating stigmas, which is very important.

My views on this particular thread are also positive because I'm saying that women don't need to prove to anyone that they're sexy, and being sexy isn't as important as some people seem to think it is. That's a positive thing.

I've never heard anyone say - oh, look at that person in a wheelchair, they're so unsexy. Have you?

Saying they do not need to, fails to understand that there are stigma's
That they should not have to would be more the point but the reality is they do have to because such stigma's do exist.
I have heard sadly people insult people in wheelchairs over their attractiveness, one I used to work with which ended up with a disciplinary.

Well I think she's demeaned herself, and I think she's giving out the wrong message to others. I don't care if that's a negative view.

Raggamuffin wrote:Well I think she's demeaned herself, and I think she's giving out the wrong message to others. I don't care if that's a negative view.

But its not about you Rags, its about how she feels and what is important to her in this regards even more so because she is disabled.

Cuchulain wrote:

Raggamuffin wrote:Well I think she's demeaned herself, and I think she's giving out the wrong message to others. I don't care if that's a negative view.

But its not about you Rags, its about how she feels and what is important to her in this regards even more so because she is disabled.

How many more times do I have to say that she claims she's doing this on behalf of others? If she puts it in the public domain, I can comment and say what I think. If it makes her feel good, that's up to her, but she's not just saying that.

If you didn't want comments, why did you start this thread?

Raggamuffin wrote:

Cuchulain wrote:

But its not about you Rags, its about how she feels and what is important to her in this regards even more so because she is disabled.

How many more times do I have to say that she claims she's doing this on behalf of others? If she puts it in the public domain, I can comment and say what I think. If it makes her feel good, that's up to her, but she's not just saying that.

If you didn't want comments, why did you start this thread?

Yes but you are not disabled are you or suffer what many disabled people suffer with stigmas, so you are not in any position to judge here not even understanding their situation. You can comment on what you like just like I can comment and show why your views are based not on how you feel but what disabled people feel.