Why guest posts must not be allowed.

First topic message reminder :

I post on on several forums and two of which are smaller sites like this one. I've read here on and off and felt it was time to register here as there are no anonymous   posts.

My observations as follows where posts about registered members are let through.  At times they can be not so nice at all and when the member raises their concerns they can get the following response from other members, guests (could be anyone inc admin posting as guest), those that admin/run the site.

At times you remain on a site as you've made a friend or two but even they can be turned against you.

You can fuck off.

Faux outrage after having let through the same post.

BS messages that the admin won't allow posts of that type again.

Openly join in.

Take the piss.

I'm currently FM on one of the other smaller sites and thinking about not posting there again. I also post on DS and Mumsnet.

JulesV wrote:

HoratioTarr wrote:

4ever2

No way!

Yep. She spent ages researching smileys to smother her intelligent posts in.

It's Andria Boardman !!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WPJyNUJKsPI

gelico wrote:



https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WPJyNUJKsPI

HoratioTarr wrote:

JulesV wrote:
No way!

Yep.  She spent ages researching smileys  to smother her intelligent posts in.

Well if her posts were intelligent why do you care whether they were smothered in smileys?
I don't even remember her smileys but I remember the superb links she posted, very insightful they were.

Her posts reflected her struggles, her journey in life, and her passions.
The content of a person's posts is what matters, let's not be snobbish about smileys.

gelico wrote:https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WPJyNUJKsPI

Interesting. We all have been on those forums (ADO, SF, and now NF), and I don't seem to remember her. Anyway, if you want to avoid your IP identification, go through "HIDE MY ASS" and it will change your IP and give you a new one.

Her narrative is a walk down memory lane, though.

JulesV wrote:

HoratioTarr wrote:

Yep.  She spent ages researching smileys  to smother her intelligent posts in.

Well if her posts were intelligent why do you care whether they were smothered in smileys?
I don't even remember her smileys but I remember the superb links she posted, very insightful they were.

Her posts reflected her struggles, her journey in life, and her passions.
The content of a person's posts is what matters, let's not be snobbish about smileys.

Because      it made       her posts     tedious    to    read

HoratioTarr wrote:

JulesV wrote:
Well if her posts were intelligent why do you care whether they were smothered in smileys?
I don't even remember her smileys but I remember the superb links she posted, very insightful they were.

Her posts reflected her struggles, her journey in life, and her passions.
The content of a person's posts is what matters, let's not be snobbish about smileys.

Because      it made       her posts     tedious    to    read

Actually, that's kind of clever. You can say a lot with smileys. Gd job, HT.

HoratioTarr wrote:

JulesV wrote:
Well if her posts were intelligent why do you care whether they were smothered in smileys?
I don't even remember her smileys but I remember the superb links she posted, very insightful they were.

Her posts reflected her struggles, her journey in life, and her passions.
The content of a person's posts is what matters, let's not be snobbish about smileys.

Because      it made       her posts     tedious    to    read

Hahaha...I thought she had returned for a minute.

JulesV wrote:

HoratioTarr wrote:

Yep.  She spent ages researching smileys  to smother her intelligent posts in.

Well if her posts were intelligent why do you care whether they were smothered in smileys?
I don't even remember her smileys but I remember the superb links she posted, very insightful they were.

Her posts reflected her struggles, her journey in life, and her passions.
The content of a person's posts is what matters, let's not be snobbish about smileys.

I found her narrative in the clip to be compelling. Not at all offensive. I wonder what people found not to like?

HoratioTarr wrote:

JulesV wrote:

HoratioTarr wrote:

4ever2

No way!

Yep.  She spent ages researching smileys  to smother her intelligent posts in.

Well, FTL loved smileys. She also smothered posts in insignificant smileys.
But I doubt it’s her.

eddie wrote:

HoratioTarr wrote:

JulesV wrote:

HoratioTarr wrote:

4ever2

No way!

Yep.  She spent ages researching smileys  to smother her intelligent posts in.

Well, FTL loved smileys. She also smothered posts in insignificant smileys.
But I doubt it’s her.

I agree, I don't think it's either of them.

Plus, aspca used to use all sorts of different fonts and colors. I actually only remember FTL going way OTT with the emoji, LOL.

Feel The Love was wonderful.  Who would ban her?

Original Quill wrote:FTL was wonderful.  Who would ban her?

She wasn't banned, she just stopped participating. Why would you assume she was banned?

Ben Reilly wrote:

Original Quill wrote:FTL was wonderful.  Who would ban her?

She wasn't banned, she just stopped participating. Why would you assume she was banned?

I didn't.  I was told.  I can't believe it, either.  She was such a wonderful person.

Perhaps she meant another site. Still, I can't think of any site that would want her gone. She was so kind and generous.

This is getting confusing, different ex posters are being mixed up.

I mentioned Andrea Boardman, Nicko couldn't remember her name.
Then 4 Ever was mentioned.
Then FTL was mentioned.

My humble opinion is ...
Andrea Boardman was decidedly odd. 4 Ever seemed to hate everyone from the start...especially the females. FTL was a lovely lady who was neither odd nor hateful.

The drunk is not on the boards as often and I'm the better for that.

MELLY wrote:The drunk is not on the boards as often and I'm the better for that.

And now we have a drunk to add to the list of suspects.

Syl wrote:This is getting confusing, different ex posters are being mixed up.

I mentioned Andrea Boardman, Nicko couldn't remember her name.
Then 4 Ever was mentioned.
Then FTL was mentioned.

My humble opinion is ...
Andrea Boardman was decidedly odd.   4 Ever seemed to hate everyone from the start...especially the females. FTL was a lovely lady who was neither odd nor hateful.

Agree about FTL. Never run into the others.

Original Quill wrote:

Syl wrote:This is getting confusing, different ex posters are being mixed up.

I mentioned Andrea Boardman, Nicko couldn't remember her name.
Then 4 Ever was mentioned.
Then FTL was mentioned.

My humble opinion is ...
Andrea Boardman was decidedly odd.   4 Ever seemed to hate everyone from the start...especially the females. FTL was a lovely lady who was neither odd nor hateful.

Agree about FTL.  Never run into the others.

You were definitely around when 4 Ever posted, I think she may have been American.
Some posters are easily forgettable though.

Syl wrote:

Original Quill wrote:

Agree about FTL.  Never run into the others.

You were definitely around when 4 Ever posted, I think she may have been American.
Some posters are easily forgettable though.

Doesn't ring a bell.  This place was started in early 2012, and I came on in December 2013.  Perhaps before I joined, or maybe one of the other forums...ADO or SF?

Original Quill wrote:

Syl wrote:

Original Quill wrote:

Agree about FTL.  Never run into the others.

You were definitely around when 4 Ever posted, I think she may have been American.
Some posters are easily forgettable though.

Doesn't ring a bell.  This place was started in early 2012, and I came on in December 2013.  Perhaps before I joined, or maybe one of the other forums...ADO or SF?

Her full name was ASPCA4EVER, shortened to ASPCA.
You were definitely here when she was.

Ding, DONG. The drunk banned my IP again by mistake I think as the drunk is drunk. I had to log out, clear the cookies and so on. The funny thing is they allow almost anyone to post as long as you go along with the drunk and it's not as if they have too many posts.

eddie wrote:

Original Quill wrote:

Doesn't ring a bell.  This place was started in early 2012, and I came on in December 2013.  Perhaps before I joined, or maybe one of the other forums...ADO or SF?

Her full name was ASPCA4EVER, shortened to ASPCA.
You were definitely here when she was.

Now that you and Syl have spoken up, I do vaguely remember her. I definitely remember FTL.

Original Quill wrote:

eddie wrote:

Her full name was ASPCA4EVER, shortened to ASPCA.
You were definitely here when she was.

Now that you and Syl have spoken up, I do vaguely remember her.  I definitely remember FTL.

My recollection of 4EVER is this.
She joined here, seemingly a newbie who had not interacted with any of us before, but from the off she seemed to dislike certain posters with no apparent reason.
Eddie was first on her radar, then Fen, followed by me, HT,  and others no doubt, she definitely didn't seem to like many people.

Obviously some rows ensued, people retaliated or defended themselves, she became a self appointed victim.

You branded us normally peaceful female members 'The mean girls' because we didn't allow her to get away with all the crap she was throwing at us.
She eventually left, (flounced) joined a couple of other forums and no doubt the whole process was repeated.

I think she got on with Sassy.....maybe Sassy was more accommodating to her than  the average poster.

I remember FTL and Andrea - banned from just about everywhere I believe but not the other poster.

Syl wrote:You branded us normally peaceful female members 'The mean girls' because we didn't allow her to get away with all the crap she was throwing at us.

No that had to do with the unfair treatment of Wolf. I remember 4EVER as much earlier.

Vintage wrote:I remember FTL and Andrea - banned from just about everywhere I believe but not the other poster.

Fen? Fen = Raggamuffin, no?

Original Quill wrote:

Syl wrote:You branded us normally peaceful female members 'The mean girls' because we didn't allow her to get away with all the crap she was throwing at us.

No that had to do with the unfair treatment of Wolf.  I remember 4EVER as much earlier.

No you are getting mixed up Quill.
Wolf joined a couple of months after I did, I don't know whether he thought he knew me from elsewhere but from the off he was unpleasant to me, name calling etc. He was the same with several female posters....when we answered him, a bit like when we answered 4 Ever....you branded a few of us mean girls, and you know very well that's not true.

4Ever certainly didn't join here earlier than 2016, and she wasn't around for long.

Syl wrote:

Original Quill wrote:

eddie wrote:

Her full name was ASPCA4EVER, shortened to ASPCA.
You were definitely here when she was.

Now that you and Syl have spoken up, I do vaguely remember her.  I definitely remember FTL.

My recollection of 4EVER is this.
She joined here, seemingly a newbie who had not interacted with any of us before, but from the off she seemed to dislike certain posters with no apparent reason.
Eddie was first on her radar, then Fen, followed by me, HT,  and others no doubt, she definitely didn't seem to like many people.

Obviously some rows ensued, people retaliated or defended themselves, she became a self appointed victim.

You branded us normally peaceful female members 'The mean girls' because we didn't allow her to get away with all the crap she was throwing at us.
She eventually left, (flounced) joined a couple of other forums and no doubt the whole process was repeated.

I think she got on with Sassy.....maybe Sassy was more accommodating to her than  the average poster.

Spot on. Gawd, she hated me with a passion. She used to go on about my looks all the time! I tried to reach out to her a couple of times, she did soften for a while and then she turned again.
She was rather odd.

Syl wrote:

Original Quill wrote:

No that had to do with the unfair treatment of Wolf.  I remember 4EVER as much earlier.

No you are getting mixed up Quill.
Wolf joined a couple of months after I did,  I don't know whether he thought he knew me from elsewhere but from the off he was unpleasant to me, name calling etc. He was the same with several female posters....when we answered him, a bit like when we answered 4 Ever....you branded a few of us mean girls, and you know very well that's not true.

Wolf joined before I did, which was December 2013.  Wolf was already a member of NewsFix, and invited me over as SF had just closed down.  But originally, and for a long time before, Wolf was known as Beekeeper.  He changed his name while here, and I believe that is why you don't recognize him from before.

And no, wolf is none too kind toward conservatives.  He's got a lot of battle scars from the cyber wars with REFUGE and Murry-an-the-short-bus, on FF, and later on ADO.

As I recall, you and a few other of the ladies had formed a cabal against Wolf, and that's how y'all acquired the name: THE MEAN GIRLS.

Wolf and I did not have origins from the breakup of SKY, like most others here; we came over from FF (and briefly MINISTRY) with Plucky Gold, an Asian lady who lives in Hong Kong (renamed Oriental Lady); and Mogadishu (nick-named MOGS), an African-Anglo lady from London.  We casually traveled as a rag-tag quartet, left over from the cyber wars.

I remember 4EVER as being early, early, perhaps even going back to SF, or ADO.  But, I admit, I can recall very few details about her.  Perhaps it was during the period I was getting to know everyone.

Right, I was going off Wolf's join date, actually I did think he was a member long before i was.

See, that's what I dont understand about some posters, they dislike someone for what they perceive them to be, not for what they actually are, and that to me is very narrow minded and unsophisticated.

Nobody formed a cabal against him or anyone, and the only person who called us 'mean girls' was you.

Yes, I coined that phrase, as it was what I observed.  You guys were on wolf like sharks.

But I agree with you that people make quick judgments, and forever stand by those perceptions.  It's too bad.  You and I are exceptions, as we are political opposites, yet we've become good friends.  It's an example of what you can have if you look beyond mere politics, and see what more a person offers.

Thank you Quill, that's a nice comment and I agree. Genuine forum friendships can withstand a lot of the pettiness that gets thrown around.
I don't care which political party, religion, caste or creed anyone is, be that on a forum or in real life, if I like someone I like them for what they are.

Obviously we both know you see your mate through rose tinted specs, so we will never agree on that point.

Syl wrote:Obviously we both know you see your mate through rose tinted specs, so we will never agree on that point.

Becky? She spends a lot of time in LA, so I don't see her enough.

Original Quill wrote:

Syl wrote:Obviously we both know you see your mate through rose tinted specs, so we will never agree on that point.

Becky?  She spends a lot of time in LA, so I don't see her enough.

Is Becky another alias Wolf goes by?

Syl wrote:

Original Quill wrote:

Becky?  She spends a lot of time in LA, so I don't see her enough.

Is Becky another alias Wolf goes by?

No. Wolf doesn't live in LA. He lives on Lake Macquarie, in the Hunter Region of NSW, Australia.

Becky is my mate.

Original Quill wrote:

Syl wrote:

Is Becky another alias Wolf goes by?

No.  Wolf doesn't live in LA.  He lives on Lake Macquarie, in the Hunter Region of NSW, Australia.

Becky is my mate.

Oh right, not sure what she has to do with the conversation we were having, but the more the merrier.

Syl wrote:

Original Quill wrote:

No.  Wolf doesn't live in LA.  He lives on Lake Macquarie, in the Hunter Region of NSW, Australia.

Becky is my mate.

Oh right, not sure what she has to do with the conversation we were having, but the more the merrier.

You asked me about my mate.

Original Quill wrote:

Syl wrote:
Oh right, not sure what she has to do with the conversation we were having, but the more the merrier.

You asked me about my mate.  

Yep.

She is very well.

She's an Optician ?

nicko wrote: She's an Optician  ?

The glasses are Syl's creation.

Original Quill wrote:

Syl wrote:

No you are getting mixed up Quill.
Wolf joined a couple of months after I did,  I don't know whether he thought he knew me from elsewhere but from the off he was unpleasant to me, name calling etc. He was the same with several female posters....when we answered him, a bit like when we answered 4 Ever....you branded a few of us mean girls, and you know very well that's not true.

Wolf joined before I did, which was December 2013.  Wolf was already a member of NewsFix, and invited me over as SF had just closed down.  But originally, and for a long time before, Wolf was known as Beekeeper.  He changed his name while here, and I believe that is why you don't recognize him from before.

And no, wolf is none too kind toward conservatives.  He's got a lot of battle scars from the cyber wars with REFUGE and Murry-an-the-short-bus, on FF, and later on ADO.

As I recall, you and a few other of the ladies had formed a cabal against Wolf, and that's how y'all acquired the name: THE MEAN GIRLS.

Wolf and I did not have origins from the breakup of SKY, like most others here; we came over from FF (and briefly MINISTRY) with Plucky Gold, an Asian lady who lives in Hong Kong (renamed Oriental Lady); and Mogadishu (nick-named MOGS), an African-Anglo lady from London.  We casually traveled as a rag-tag quartet, left over from the cyber wars.

I remember 4EVER as being early, early, perhaps even going back to SF, or ADO.  But, I admit, I can recall very few details about her.  Perhaps it was during the period I was getting to know everyone.

He started on me the moment I joined. And even when I left, he was still banging on about me. If people are civil to me, I'm civil to them.

Syl wrote:

Original Quill wrote:

No that had to do with the unfair treatment of Wolf.  I remember 4EVER as much earlier.

No you are getting mixed up Quill.
Wolf joined a couple of months after I did,  I don't know whether he thought he knew me from elsewhere but from the off he was unpleasant to me, name calling etc. He was the same with several female posters....when we answered him, a bit like when we answered 4 Ever....you branded a few of us mean girls, and you know very well that's not true.

4Ever certainly didn't join here earlier than 2016, and she wasn't around for long.

Wolfie sent me a pm once....I replied very pleasantly, and he ignored me.  Then it occurred to me that he'd sent it by mistake and it was meant for someone else.   I could imagine his horror after he pressed that send button.  

The vast majority of people I have encountered on forums are civil if treated similarly.
The odd few either have a personality disorder or an agenda....that's my opinion going from my own experiences of forum life.

HoratioTarr wrote:

Syl wrote:

No you are getting mixed up Quill.
Wolf joined a couple of months after I did,  I don't know whether he thought he knew me from elsewhere but from the off he was unpleasant to me, name calling etc. He was the same with several female posters....when we answered him, a bit like when we answered 4 Ever....you branded a few of us mean girls, and you know very well that's not true.

4Ever certainly didn't join here earlier than 2016, and she wasn't around for long.

Wolfie sent me a pm once....I replied very pleasantly, and he ignored me.  Then it occurred to me that he'd sent it by mistake and it was meant for someone else.   I could imagine his horror after he pressed that send button.  

Probably he went through the same emotion an unfaithful husband must have when he has texted his girlfriend and sent it to his wife by mistake.

Syl wrote:

HoratioTarr wrote:

Wolfie sent me a pm once....I replied very pleasantly, and he ignored me.  Then it occurred to me that he'd sent it by mistake and it was meant for someone else.   I could imagine his horror after he pressed that send button.  

Probably he went through the same emotion an unfaithful husband must have when he has texted his girlfriend and sent it to his wife by mistake.

Wolf is not married.

Original Quill wrote:

Syl wrote:


Probably he went through the same emotion an unfaithful husband must have when he has texted his girlfriend and sent it to his wife by mistake.

Wolf is not married.

I didn't say he was.