Brides letter to her grooms ex girlfriend.

Original Quill wrote:Wow.  While I agree with her sentiment, I wonder why this was written.  Sounds almost like she's the one with the demons.

Vintage wrote:I agree run for the hills mate, she's going to be hell to live with, one slip of attention on his part and she's going to get mad, then jealous and maybe even controlling and obsessive and maybe turn into the Cathy Bates character in Misery.
That's a weird letter to write.

Raggamuffin wrote:My first reaction was the same, but it needs to be put into context.

https://www.huffingtonpost.co.uk/entry/victoria-higgin-prom-dress-wedding-dress_us_5ac7bafee4b09d0a11938d43

magica wrote:The man should get away from her while he can.

She's jealous, spiteful, demented, and hates the fact her boyfriend has a past.

Syl wrote:Well no one deserves the sort of abuse she has recieved, its totally out of order, she hasnt murdered anyone for Gods sake.

One of the downsides of the internet, giving trolls free reign to abuse and threaten anyone they deem  'deserves' it.

Syl wrote:Yes....I agree with you too.
The answer is not to play your private life out on the internet, but then, in a way, you are letting the trolls win.

Everyone is judge and jury without leaving their arm chairs nowadays...I guess we are all guilty of that.

But normal people dont resort to threats and nasty abuse, and thats the difference.

Didge wrote:

Syl wrote:Yes....I agree with you too.
The answer is not to play your private life out on the internet, but then, in a way, you are letting the trolls win.

Everyone is judge and jury without leaving their arm chairs nowadays...I guess we are all guilty of that.

But normal people dont resort to threats and nasty abuse, and thats the difference.

+1

There is nothing wrong with criticism, but when its spiteful and vicious. Then you know those doing this, are actually no more than hateful people, hiding behind a wall, where they remain unchallenged by such hateful views.

It shows that humanity is losing the ability to communicate and instead use technology, to attack people in the most appalling manner.

This girl was clearly in the shadows for years of this other girl and stupidly took her happiness to a another level, by expressing this openly. Clearly never understanding how people would react.

I seriously think some people get off on how hateful they can be. She was not hateful, just naive.

people sometimes Didge.

Syl wrote:

Didge wrote:


+1

There is nothing wrong with criticism, but when its spiteful and vicious. Then you know those doing this, are actually no more than hateful people, hiding behind a wall, where they remain unchallenged by such hateful views.

It shows that humanity is losing the ability to communicate and instead use technology, to attack people in the most appalling manner.

This girl was clearly in the shadows for years of this other girl and stupidly took her happiness to a another level, by expressing this openly. Clearly never understanding how people would react.

I seriously think some people get off on how hateful they can be. She was not hateful, just naive.

You have a good understanding of people sometimes Didge.


She did gloat, and it certainly wasnt kind to the girl she was aiming her comments at.
It didnt help that she then tried to backtrack and say it wasnt personal, when it certainly seemed to be.
You look beyond all that and see the girl who was once on the outside looking in


Thats nice.x

Didge wrote:

Syl wrote:
You have a good understanding of people sometimes Didge.


She did gloat, and it certainly wasnt kind to the girl she was aiming her comments at.
It didnt help that she then tried to backtrack and say it wasnt personal, when it certainly seemed to be.
You look beyond all that and see the girl who was once on the outside looking in


Thats nice.x

Thanks Syl

I try to look at this from a postion of empathic intelligence.

The girl badly gloated and I do not think from a position of spite, but more of a position of years of frustration. Wnating something, that seemed beyond reach. When she obtained that, all those emotions, just spilled out and poorly, in all the wrong ways. I am sure she now regrets her stupid outburst, but neither deserve what has since happened to them, with the Mail printing this story. They hold some responsibility for this too. As they knew it would cause people to react. Hence to me, the Mail was irresponsible posting this story.

x

Didge wrote:

Syl wrote:Well no one deserves the sort of abuse she has recieved, its totally out of order, she hasnt murdered anyone for Gods sake.

One of the downsides of the internet, giving trolls free reign to abuse and threaten anyone they deem  'deserves' it.

I seriously dispair at how people have become so hateful on the internet

What she wrote was very immature and more born from a view of years of frustration. Sitting in the shadows of someone she truley loved. It was dumb what she wrote and again born from insecurities, but did she deserve tge response?

No way

So agree with you Syl