Added a new category -- "Thinking Deeply"

Ben_Reilly wrote:I realized a number of things I'd like to discuss or ask the community about don't really fall into one of our existing categories, so I've created a new one called "Thinking Deeply." It's for presenting issues or asking questions that are more timeless or philosophical in nature. I'll soon have the first topic posted and I'd appreciate any and all thoughts and comments on it. Cheers!

Ben_Reilly wrote:Yeah, I see it's down right now

Missed you!

Catman wrote:Everything is awful.

I'm a carer for Doug yet that comes of the taxpayer he can't even walk for five minutes without being in terrible pain and he's in the support group (they recognise that he has severe problems and is unable to work ever again)

Now i gave up a very good job years ago to look after him and i get £58 a week but now they are expecting me to seek work again when in wouldn't know where to start and i would admit that the constant pressure of his illness did get to me and i have become a bit of an alcoholic but i have kept things running and i don't drink during the day i'm there for him to talk etc and most of what he has to say is how ill he is feeling and how he wants to kill himself due to the terrible pain that he's in.

They have recognised that i'm very worn out so much so that i was diagnosed as not being fit for work a few months ago but now they saying that i am although nothing has changed at all and who is going to provide care for Doug when i'm not here?

My family have been in contact and have said that in two years time part of the inheritance will be released (25K) (it's invested true)...Then there is 100K in the future but that would depend on a house sale in Spain.

TBF i don't know if a can carry on for two years and i would admit that i have stored up 200mg paracetamol tablets and i have enough to kill myself but i'm not prepared to take them yet but day by day i think about taking them.

Ben_Reilly wrote:Yeah, I see it's down right now

Missed you!

I think that they are starting to take notice as i've got my local MP involved in certain things and that scares them a bit!

Lurker wrote:Catman, I'm happy you are back. I would hope that you would give up on the idea of taking a bunch of pills to end your pain and stress. Obviously you mean a lot to Doug. You have been his soulmate without fail all these years. Being a caregiver is a stressful and demanding job. Sometimes it seems like it is a thankless job, but if you love someone you have to do it.

I think that they are starting to take notice as i've got my local MP involved in certain things and that scares them a bit!

Hopefully this is a light at the end of the tunnel and you will get some more help. Try to come to grips with the stress and the fatigue as much as you can. You are a special person, especially to Doug, and he needs you and depends on you. Hopefully he would do the same for you if the tables were turned. Perhaps talking to a therapist could help.

Ben_Reilly wrote:You're in my thoughts, man -- hope things start to turn around for you. Stick around to see that happen, why don't you!

dwg184 wrote:this hurts my wittle head