Your kid will need therapy because of you': Mommy blogger is SLAMMED for marking her son's sixth birthday with a post about how he is 'statistically' less popular than his siblings on Instagram

Katie Bower, a 37-year-old mother of five from Atlanta, Georgia, penned the post in honor of her son Weston's sixth birthday
What started as a heartwarming tribute turned into a confession about how his photos don't get as many likes or comments as pictures of his four siblings
'Guys I am gonna be perfectly honest...Instagram never liked my Munchkin and it killed me inside,' she wrote. 'His photos never got as many likes'
Many commenters found her candid message to be 'infuriating'
A screengrab of the bizarre post appeared on Twitter and attracted the attention of Chrissy Teigen, who responded: 'Oh. My. God. What in the hell??'
In September, Katie went viral after she admitted on Instagram that she didn't realize people in the Twin Towers had died on 9/11 until a year after the attacks

Katie Bower, a 37-year-old mother of five based in Atlanta, Georgia, shocked her fans on Sunday when she discussed her son Weston's photos from a 'statistical point of view,' explaining that 'he wasn't as popular with everyone out there.'

The post, which was shared in honor of Weston's sixth birthday, started as a heartwarming tribute to the little boy but turned into a confession about how his pictures don't get as many likes or comments from her 52,000 followers.

'Guys I am gonna be perfectly honest...Instagram never liked my Munchkin and it killed me inside,' she wrote. 'His photos never got as many likes. Never got comments.'

Weston has an older brother, Will, and three younger siblings, LJ, Maxwell, and Ella, and according to his mom, people are the least responsive to his photos.

'From a statistical point of view, he wasn’t as popular with everyone out there,' she said. 'Maybe part of that was the pictures just never hit the algorithm right.

'Part might be because he was "the baby" for a very short amount of time before LJ came along...and then Max and then Ella. And people like babies.'

Katie even went as far as to blame herself for her son's lack of likes on Instagram

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-6406999/Mother-complains-six-year-old-son-statistically-popular-siblings-online.html

37 going on 15. No wonder kids are all screwed up. No doubt "Munchkin" will look back on this when he's the physical age of his mother's mentality and cringe.

Obviously she values total strangers approval more than she values her sons well being.
Stupid cow.

Southerners.

What a really stupid individual. I tried to have hope that she was attempting to be really funny in a dry, understated way but I can see I was being totally optimistic.

I hope little Munchkin hasn’t inherited her, um, intelligence.

Just how empty and meaningless an existence does that unthinking mother lead, that she has to live her shitty life online like that, measuring a person's value on how many 'friends' and 'likes' she can garner online from a largely anonymous audience ???

It's one thing to judge her own pathetic self from her online persona, but subjecting her poor defenceless children to her abject stupidity could easily amount to some kind of 'child abuse'..

WhoseYourWolfie wrote:

Just how empty and meaningless an existence does that unthinking mother lead, that she has to live her shitty life online like that, measuring a person's value on how many 'friends' and 'likes' she can garner online from a largely anonymous audience  ???

It's one thing to judge her own pathetic self from her online persona, but subjecting her poor defenceless children to her abject stupidity could easily amount to some kind of 'child abuse'..

Green for that. I totally agree. What a shallow woman. Seriously.

There are so many stupid people around.

Raggamuffin wrote:There are so many stupid people around.

Yep. And what is she teaching her children?

What is she teaching here?

Not one of you has actually learnt have you?

You all use social media

This may not have an effect on you, but yoiu are part of this circus and you blame the mother for being worried?

What ios the fucking hell wrong with you all

The Mary poppins brigade, who do no wrong?

eddie wrote:

Raggamuffin wrote:There are so many stupid people around.

Yep. And what is she teaching her children?

That "likes" on social media are highly important, and that their life will be wrecked if they don't get as many as other people.

Thor wrote:What is she teaching here?

Not one of you has actually learnt have you?

You all use social media

This may not have an effect on you, but yoiu are part of this circus and you blame the mother for being worried?

What ios the fucking hell wrong with you all

The Mary poppins brigade, who do no wrong?

I post on here and another forum....not sure if that is classed as social media. I dont do facebook, Twitter, or any other site where people seem to log their every mundane move and thought.

In any case it's not the fact this woman is using social media, it's the fact she is measuring her sons worth by how many likes his photo gets, which is absolutely pathetic.

Syl wrote:

Thor wrote:What is she teaching here?

Not one of you has actually learnt have you?

You all use social media

This may not have an effect on you, but yoiu are part of this circus and you blame the mother for being worried?

What ios the fucking hell wrong with you all

The Mary poppins brigade, who do no wrong?

I post on here and another forum....not sure if that is classed as social media. I dont do facebook, Twitter, or any other site where people seem to log their every mundane move and thought.

In any case it's not the fact this woman is using social media, it's the fact she is measuring her sons worth by how many likes his photo gets, which is absolutely pathetic.

So do you think its a crime for a mother to wish her own child is liked?

She is not measuring any worth, she simple cares for her child

Is she doing this from a position of hate or love?

No matter what you think of her methods, she only wants the best for her child

Thor wrote:

Syl wrote:

I post on here and another forum....not sure if that is classed as social media. I dont do facebook, Twitter, or any other site where people seem to log their every mundane move and thought.

In any case it's not the fact this woman is using social media, it's the fact she is measuring her sons worth by how many likes his photo gets, which is absolutely pathetic.

So do you think its a crime for a mother to wish her own child is liked?

She is not measuring any worth, she simple cares for her child

Is she doing this from a position of hate or love?

No matter what you think of her methods, she only wants the best for her child

Her values are screwed. If she wants the best for her child she will get off social media sites and concentrate on building up her sons (and her own ) confidence by teaching him the way he acts is what makes him a worthwhile person, not the way complete strangers comment on his birthday pics online.

You see Syl, I actually look at things, no matter how wierd they may seem, from a view of empathic intelligence

Clearly this mother has allowed negative fears to form and grow. In a world of social media, where people have become in need of being liked. Its a sad reality of today, but also not surprising.

She has allowed fear to creep into her thinking by a system, that is based upon capitalizing addiction through a form gambling. That is what the like system is based upon. It is aset up to create an addiction and sadly some people are becoming addicted to this.

Now addiction is a disease, that requires all the support that can be given to people and what we should be doing is calling out such social media giants like facebooks, for the addictions that have deliberately created.

Its this very addiction, based upon a view to play onto the very insecurities of people that is the problem here. Hence she is now going to constantly fear for her son to be liked.

This is the consequences of social media and its playing havoc with the mental health of people.

Hence you are failing to look at this rationally

Have a read Syl

https://www.theguardian.com/technology/2018/may/08/social-media-copies-gambling-methods-to-create-psychological-cravings

WhoseYourWolfie wrote:

Just how empty and meaningless an existence does that unthinking mother lead, that she has to live her shitty life online like that, measuring a person's value on how many 'friends' and 'likes' she can garner online from a largely anonymous audience  ???

It's one thing to judge her own pathetic self from her online persona, but subjecting her poor defenceless children to her abject stupidity could easily amount to some kind of 'child abuse'..

I totally agree with this.

this paragraph got to me tbh

'P.S. I wanted to clarify that I revealed this feeling because I know one day he will see the numbers and have to learn that his value is not in online approval,' she wrote. 'This is a hard lesson for anyone to learn and I’m thankful I have learned it. '



one day? one day he'll have to learn? surely teaching your kids their own self value comes from day 1.

that should never be a hard lesson to learn

she sounds as if her whole existence and self worth revolves around her own likes so now she is projecting that on to her children

So when you have read that Syl and I hope others do. The view to slam the mother was inherantly unnecessary.

None of you actually looked to the possible causes of what could make a mother go to such lenghs. Using mathmatics to see whether a child is liked more than her other children. The very same methods that is being used to make so many people addicted to such social media gimics.

None of you stopped to think about this and all of you went into attacking mode on the mother. Not stopping for one second to consider the actual cause. Instead you looked to blame her, without any justification, in my view

I hope this helps people to look at things with an unemotional mind, but rationally. To see often. That there is often other reasons what cause these situations to form in the first place.

I think it's terrible for a parent to pitch their kid against other kids. If you do that in terms of "popularity", that's even worse.

Raggamuffin wrote:I think it's terrible for a parent to pitch their kid against other kids. If you do that in terms of "popularity", that's even worse.

Its happened for centuries

Normally the second child will grow up, striving to obtain the same achievments of the first born

This actually happens more than you must realise

Sadly it also leads to envy, but parents have constantly used the achievements of other siblings to push their other children to do better.

Such methodology has pluses and weaknesess, but this is not something new and in relality has its bases in evolution. As constantly siblings have been rivals, based on a hierarchy

Thor wrote:

Raggamuffin wrote:I think it's terrible for a parent to pitch their kid against other kids. If you do that in terms of "popularity", that's even worse.

Its happened for centuries

Normally the second child will grow up, striving to obtain the same achievments of the first born

This actually happens more than you must realise

Sadly it also leads to envy, but parents have constantly used the achievements of other siblings to push their other children to do better.

Such methodology has pluses and weaknesess, but this is not something new and in relality has its bases in evolution. As constantly siblings have been rivals, based on a hierarchy

Achievement isn't the same as popularity. To base a kid's worth on "likes" on social media is awful. People shouldn't be putting pics of their kids on there anyway.

Raggamuffin wrote:

Thor wrote:


Its happened for centuries

Normally the second child will grow up, striving to obtain the same achievments of the first born

This actually happens more than you must realise

Sadly it also leads to envy, but parents have constantly used the achievements of other siblings to push their other children to do better.

Such methodology has pluses and weaknesess, but this is not something new and in relality has its bases in evolution. As constantly siblings have been rivals, based on a hierarchy

Achievement isn't the same as popularity. To base a kid's worth on "likes" on social media is awful. People shouldn't be putting pics of their kids on there anyway.

But its based on the very same methodology.

Many parents will never admit, but they will always favour one child over the rest

I experinced this first hand myself, being one of 11 children and because I had a talent with music. I was given far more slack than the rest of my siblings. I guess I even took advantage of this at times

So its not surprising to me, that this mother could feel this way about this child and it could be that this is her favorite. With again the growing problem of social media forms of addiction. That is what is actually driving this

Thor wrote:

Raggamuffin wrote:

Achievement isn't the same as popularity. To base a kid's worth on "likes" on social media is awful. People shouldn't be putting pics of their kids on there anyway.

But its based on the very same methodology.

Many parents will never admit, but they will always favour one child over the rest

I experinced this first hand myself, being one of 11 children and because I had a talent with music. I was given far more slack than the rest of my siblings. I guess I even took advantage of this at times

So its not surprising to me, that this mother could feel this way about this child and it could be that this is her favorite. With again the growing problem of social media forms of addiction. That is what is actually driving this

She should get off social media then. It's not a real addiction, it's just a habit. If you start harming others with your social media habits, you should get off it.

It's interesting that you're defending this woman. Weren't you saying that if parents don't children self-worth, it's "poor parenting"?

Raggamuffin wrote:

Thor wrote:


But its based on the very same methodology.

Many parents will never admit, but they will always favour one child over the rest

I experinced this first hand myself, being one of 11 children and because I had a talent with music. I was given far more slack than the rest of my siblings. I guess I even took advantage of this at times

So its not surprising to me, that this mother could feel this way about this child and it could be that this is her favorite. With again the growing problem of social media forms of addiction. That is what is actually driving this

She should get off social media then. It's not a real addiction, it's just a habit. If you start harming others with your social media habits, you should get off it.

It's interesting that you're defending this woman. Weren't you saying that if parents don't children self-worth, it's "poor parenting"?

Tell someone addicted to drinking to stop drinking?

Easier said than done, the same with smoking, and many forms of drugs.

They have to recognise that there is a problem first, before they can then begin to help themselves

As addiction is a disease and why I will look to see if this a possibility here

I never claimed her actions were even right. So is that defending her, or asking people to broaden their understanding here before judging?

Clearly you are incapable of doing so with your stubborness

Raggamuffin wrote:


I just don't think it's a proper addiction, as I said. Why don't you listen?

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So you need to reason why its not.

You have not

So you think its not a proper addiction

I suggest you argue your case to people who have studied addiction for decades

Good luck with that

Why did Rags delete her posts, whilst I actually replied to it?

Or is there some bug with the site?

Oh FFS, you're defending this stupid woman just to be awkward - that's obvious.

Nobody is forcing her to say such stupid things on social media. Even if it was a real addiction, that doesn't excuse her.

Raggamuffin wrote:Oh FFS, you're defending this stupid woman just to be awkward - that's obvious.

Nobody is forcing her to say such stupid things on social media. Even if it was a real addiction, that doesn't excuse her.

How am I defending her?

Did I ever claim what she is doing is okay or even correct to do?

Thor wrote:Why did Rags delete her posts, whilst I actually replied to it?

Or is there some bug with the site?

The quotes went wrong so I deleted it rather than mess about correcting it. I was just going to post it again, but you already replied.

Raggamuffin wrote:

Thor wrote:Why did Rags delete her posts, whilst I actually replied to it?

Or is there some bug with the site?

The quotes went wrong so I deleted it rather than mess about correcting it. I was just going to post it again, but you already replied.

So what understanding and experince do you have on addiction to refute the claims of many experts on addiction?

Thor wrote:So when you have read that Syl and I hope others do. The view to slam the mother was inherantly unnecessary.

None of you actually looked to the possible causes of what could make a mother go to such lenghs. Using mathmatics to see whether a child is liked more than her other children. The very same methods that is being used to make so many people addicted to such social media gimics.

None of you stopped to think about this and all of you went into attacking mode on the mother. Not stopping for one second to consider the actual cause. Instead you looked to blame her, without any justification, in my view

I hope this helps people to look at things with an unemotional mind, but rationally. To see often. That there is often other reasons what cause these situations to form in the first place.

Yes I read the link and I agree that the internet, and it doesnt have to be social media sites, can be habit forming even addictive.
But.....people can and do break the cycle of addiction if they really want to. This woman realises that relying on the approval of strangers online is wrong, but not only is she doing it, she is dragging her young son into it all too...surely that should be the incentive she needs to break the cycle any way she can.
She knows she is wrong, but she is in denial if she thinks she has got over her need for to be approved by strangers online....proven by this comment she made.

"I wanted to clarify that I revealed this feeling because I know one day he will see the numbers and have to learn that his value is not in online approval,' she wrote. 'This is a hard lesson for anyone to learn and I’m thankful I have learned it."

Syl wrote:

Thor wrote:So when you have read that Syl and I hope others do. The view to slam the mother was inherantly unnecessary.

None of you actually looked to the possible causes of what could make a mother go to such lenghs. Using mathmatics to see whether a child is liked more than her other children. The very same methods that is being used to make so many people addicted to such social media gimics.

None of you stopped to think about this and all of you went into attacking mode on the mother. Not stopping for one second to consider the actual cause. Instead you looked to blame her, without any justification, in my view

I hope this helps people to look at things with an unemotional mind, but rationally. To see often. That there is often other reasons what cause these situations to form in the first place.

Yes I read the link and I agree that the internet, and it doesnt have to be social media sites, can be habit forming even addictive.
But.....people can and do break the cycle of addiction if they really want to. This woman realises that relying on the approval of strangers online is wrong, but not only is she doing it, she is dragging her young son into it all too...surely that should be the incentive she needs to break the cycle any way she can.
She knows she is wrong, but she is in denial if she thinks she has got over her need for to be approved by strangers online....proven by this comment she made.

"I wanted to clarify that I revealed this feeling because I know one day he will see the numbers and have to learn that his value is not in online approval,' she wrote. 'This is a hard lesson for anyone to learn and I’m thankful I have learned it."

But people with addictions are generally knowing that they are in the wrong, but do nothing to comabt this problem

The reality is and I stress again, people on here make ill-formed and poor views against people without ever taking into consideration about something. Even more here its evident to me, what is driving someone to do this and based on the previous comments on this. The again Mary Poppins brigade, take this as a que to be as vile and nasty towards this mother as possible. Not once actually being constructive in anything about this, but thinking they are supreme in parenthood

Again my view is people need to stop and take a deep breath on what they are posting on, as they are generally reacting on emotion and not reason in thier views on issues

Syl wrote:

Thor wrote:So when you have read that Syl and I hope others do. The view to slam the mother was inherantly unnecessary.

None of you actually looked to the possible causes of what could make a mother go to such lenghs. Using mathmatics to see whether a child is liked more than her other children. The very same methods that is being used to make so many people addicted to such social media gimics.

None of you stopped to think about this and all of you went into attacking mode on the mother. Not stopping for one second to consider the actual cause. Instead you looked to blame her, without any justification, in my view

I hope this helps people to look at things with an unemotional mind, but rationally. To see often. That there is often other reasons what cause these situations to form in the first place.

She knows she is wrong, but she is in denial if she thinks she has got over her need for to be approved by strangers online....proven by this comment she made.

"I wanted to clarify that I revealed this feeling because I know one day he will see the numbers and have to learn that his value is not in online approval,' she wrote. 'This is a hard lesson for anyone to learn and I’m thankful I have learned it."

that's the paragraph that stuck out for me as well

gelico wrote:

Syl wrote:

She knows she is wrong, but she is in denial if she thinks she has got over her need for to be approved by strangers online....proven by this comment she made.

"I wanted to clarify that I revealed this feeling because I know one day he will see the numbers and have to learn that his value is not in online approval,' she wrote. 'This is a hard lesson for anyone to learn and I’m thankful I have learned it."

that's the paragraph that stuck out for me as well

Actually her evaluation on this is very much spot on

So what is wrong with what she found out from this and what she said?

Is anyone suggesting here that looking into even likeability, is now somehow wrong?

Seriously, what do you think she did wrong here asnd how she came to such conclusions?

Being as its now well known the problems of sociel media addiction with likeability?

Didge, if she had learned her lesson she would stop valuing all the likes she does and doesnt get and teach her son by example.

Syl wrote:Didge, if she had learned her lesson she would stop valuing all the likes she does and doesnt get and teach her son by example.

Easier said than done

Again you need to step outside the box Syl

All I am saying is people should look at things more closely