Result of a disfunctional family

THE son who wrote a harsh obituary about his late mother has spoken out about why he and his sister decided to reveal why they felt “this world is a much better place without” Kathleen Dehmlow.

Jay Dehmalo, 58, told the Daily Mail that his mother, who died last week at the age of 80, prompted a dysfunctional childhood for him, and his sister, Gina, after she became pregnant by her brother-in-law.

“We wanted to finally get the last word,” Dehmalo said. “You could write it all down in a book or turn it into a movie and people wouldn’t believe what we went through.”

“Not important?” Dehmalo said to the Daily Mail. “Sure. They have no idea what we went through and back then, in the ’50s and ’60s, nobody talked about anything.”

The 58-year-old said he and his sister had to piece together information about their family and mother throughout their lives, claiming the two didn’t know they had half-brothers until years after they were born.

The rare instances Dehmalo recalls her taking a break from “having a great life in California with her other kids” and visiting them, the two “didn’t have so much as a card from her. I remember she came home twice and on one occasion she was showing pictures of her and her kids playing cards, drinking beers”.

“Gina and I were standing in the room, just standing there and she didn’t even acknowledge us,” he said. “It’s like we didn’t exist.”

Syl wrote:That's sad....to die and not be mourned by anyone.

The final proof that what goes round comes around.

HoratioTarr wrote:

Syl wrote:That's sad....to die and not be mourned by anyone.

The final proof that what goes round comes around.

It's not sad if you've been a twat to your kids, or made them suffer.    Obviously there's still a lot of bitterness.  But it's a bit  of a  Pyrrhic victory over the dead.   It's not going to hurt her, is it?