All-Girls T-Ball Team Takes On Boys, Is Nobody’s ‘Sweetie’

Talk about a grand slam philosophy. 
Parenting blogger and author Doyin Richards, a coach for the only all-girls team in its West L.A. league, is teaching his players that they can play ball with the boys.


Courtesy of Doyin Richards
The kickass all-girls team, the Angels. 
And the California father of two, a self-proclaimed feminist, says that by instilling confidence in them, he hopes to show his players that anything boys can do they can do, too.  “My goal is to let them know that these girls are just as good, just as talented, just as powerful as any boy out there.” he told The Huffington Post of his team, the Angels. “We have to start early with these girls to let them know they can compete.”  The coach told HuffPost that his team, who plays against mostly all-boys or majority-boys teams, encounters challenges on the field. Spectators or others often do not see them in the same way that they do the boys, he said.






The dad explained to HuffPost that while coaching, he strives to change attitudes and even out the playing field. When speaking to his players, he’s careful to talk to them just as he would any male player.

“In the beginning, I found myself saying, ‘Good job sweetie!’ or ‘Come here honey!’ But then I thought, ‘Wait a second. That’s not OK,’” he said. “That could translate to when they’re at work and their boss calls them some pet name. They’re not honeys they’re not sweeties. These are girls ― human beings with names and need to be respected as such.”

Furthermore, he said he helps them zero in on specific skills and the game itself, rather than the opposing team. 
“Focus on how to swing, focus on your ready position when you’re on the field ... When you really focus in on the task at hand, you don’t worry about your opponent,” he said.

While he tries to instill feminist values into his coaching, Richards also asserts that it’s crucial for the girls to see a male who is committed to gender equality.

“I think it’s so, so important to have male allies. I want my daughters to see me cooking in the kitchen, to see me cleaning up, to see me doing their hair, so they understand ... that that’s to be expected,” he said. “That men who truly embrace feminism are the norm. I want my daughters and my team to know that.”


And ultimately, through his team and their strength, he says he hopes that people will see girls as serious athletes.

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/entry/coach-for-only-all-girls-team-in-t-ball-league-proves-players-arent-sweeties_us_57a8d349e4b0b770b1a3bd5b?utm_hp_ref=good-news

Wait, isn't being offended at not receiving equal treatment the sole concern of the women who are treated unequally, and any man concerned about something that "doesn't" affect him is just trying to make people admire him?

well...one has to wonder ....if he didnt have a daughter...would he be the same? would he hold the same views.....

see...HE IS involved and it does affect him....

so your point kinda falls apart.....

Yeah. Whatever. If I were needing a hand to carry heavy stuff, I'd still call on a male over a female.

Good for these girls but stop trying to tell that they're boys. They're not.
They're really good players in a team so well done for that.

Ben Reilly wrote:Wait, isn't being offended at not receiving equal treatment the sole concern of the women who are treated unequally, and any man concerned about something that "doesn't" affect him is just trying to make people admire him?

If that is what you took out of this, then I guess shallow comes to mind

There is no doubt this is a man that wished for boys and more so through his love of sport he at first made a substitute out of his daughters with sports to compensate not having a son. He was treating them with kid gloves as if girls seeing that the opposition was doing this and realised for them to be treatd equally, he would have to lead by example.

Did anyone actually watch the video or do what you have just done and judge him completely when he has been very honest?

Glad it brought you amusment, remember that next time, when you are only reporting on great sports stars and the fact you are not one of them

it was a dig at a comment i'd made earlier on anothet thread didge.....

Lord Foul wrote:it was a dig at a comment i'd made earlier on anothet thread didge.....

Fairly feeble minded dig then

Didge wrote:

Lord Foul wrote:it was a dig at a comment i'd made earlier on anothet thread didge.....

Fairly feeble minded dig then

No, it was genius, you're just incapable of recognizing it ...

What if the guy had a daughter? What, would his life be a 24-hour sausage fest then, he'd never need to deal with women?

My whole point is that when people of different groups stick up for one another, everybody wins.

There seems to be a disheartening view here that there can never be a winner without a loser, but there most certainly can be.

And LF, if you don't care about anybody besides your group, why do you care if other people do care?

Ben Reilly wrote:

Didge wrote:


Fairly feeble minded dig then

No, it was genius, you're just incapable of recognizing it ...

What if the guy had a daughter? What, would his life be a 24-hour sausage fest then, he'd never need to deal with women?

My whole point is that when people of different groups stick up for one another, everybody wins.

There seems to be a disheartening view here that there can never be a winner without a loser, but there most certainly can be.

It was utterly shallow

He did have a daughter

Again i suggest you watch the vedio to understand why youa re talking nonsense

He actually was teaching her one of the first things to learn was be abl to accept sometimes they would lose and how to accept defeat

So I suggest instad of offering me up poor views, you instead watch the video

I was referring to LF's hypo of what if he didn't have a daughter -- should have written "what if he didn't have a daughter."

Ben Reilly wrote:I was referring to LF's hypo of what if he didn't have a daughter -- should have written "what if he didn't have a daughter."

I had no idea until Victor stated and not concerned it has come onto here, though if this was me, claims to hijacking would be shouted from the roof tops

The way it looks to any outsider reading in, will have no idea it was in regards to another debate when no mention of that postrs name is provided

@didge

it was easy to follow If you dont assume every post is addressed to you

veya_victaous wrote:@didge

it was easy to follow If you dont assume every post is addressed to you

That is absilutely disingenious to claim when you would have had no idea, being the fact this carried over from another thread.
Until someone mentioned this

lol, nothing worse than poor fibbers

Didge wrote:

Ben Reilly wrote:I was referring to LF's hypo of what if he didn't have a daughter -- should have written "what if he didn't have a daughter."

I had no idea until Victor stated and not concerned it has come onto here, though if this was me, claims to hijacking would be shouted from the roof tops

The way it looks to any outsider reading in, will have no idea it was in regards to another debate when no mention of that postrs name is provided

I admit, I felt like a dick after hitting "send," because what I posted wasn't really on topic. I apologize. LF's assertion that you need not worry what's happening to any group besides your own got my blood up pretty bad.

eddie wrote:Yeah. Whatever. If I were needing a hand to carry heavy stuff, I'd still call on a male over a female.

Good for these girls but stop trying to tell that they're boys. They're not.
They're really good players in a team so well done for that.

Doesn't sound like he's telling them anything other than that they can play just as well as the boys.

Ben Reilly wrote:

Didge wrote:





I had no idea until Victor stated and not concerned it has come onto here, though if this was me, claims to hijacking would be shouted from the roof tops

The way it looks to any outsider reading in, will have no idea it was in regards to another debate when no mention of that postrs name is provided

I admit, I felt like a dick after hitting "send," because what I posted wasn't really on topic. I apologize. LF's assertion that you need not worry what's happening to any group besides your own got my blood up pretty bad.

Ben no offense was takng, so as I stated there is no ned to apologise, but do understand why something as this stated would annoy.

Ben Reilly wrote:

eddie wrote:Yeah. Whatever. If I were needing a hand to carry heavy stuff, I'd still call on a male over a female.

Good for these girls but stop trying to tell that they're boys. They're not.
They're really good players in a team so well done for that.

Doesn't sound like he's telling them anything other than that they can play just as well as the boys.

It's hardly a story then is it?

eddie wrote:

Ben Reilly wrote:

Doesn't sound like he's telling them anything other than that they can play just as well as the boys.

It's hardly a story then is it?  

He is teaching that they will not always win and to learn to accept defeat with dignity.
To instill a sense of winning also, which inspires people to succeeed. It is trying to overcome sterotype hostilities towards women in sport and to help normalize as it should be girls playing sports they like which for so long have been classified male sports
It can help children from developing low self esteem and insecurities from the earliest ages, when youngsters are as you well know at their most impressionable at these ages. These ages at the very start of what can form how they suceed in life
If you think that is not a story, then maybe you want to understand what you failed to see what was inspiring in this story

@ Ben....so one should not...ever...question the motives of those who defend what YOU think constitute good ideas, simply on the basis of "the more the better"

confirmation bias anyone?

so taking the left in britain as an example....

because they love those of one particular belief set...to the point of forgiving them ANY atrocity, they are GREAT....despite the fact that as didge points out with great regularity they ALSO despise denigrate and yes hate those of another belief set?????

the one "good" over rides and excuses the equivalent foul "bad"???

I do se Bens point though Victor on not caring about others, when we have a history of going to the defense of countries aggressively attacked wihin the last century. By saying it would be wrong to do that is kind of like saying they all died in vain. Or the very fact many groups have suffered genocide in the 20th and 21st century and this is the biggest point here.

What disappoints me more than anything is how constantly a play is made on westrn aggression in the Middle East and claims based off natural resources. In most campaigns it has been to remove a threat, whether the Taliban, Saddam Hussein and the most important one the left constantly forget.

Bosnia Genocide

Nobody speaks ever of what the West did to help Muslims from Genocide by the Serbians. This is easily forgotten when how and why this should be spoken about more to counter the hate naratives based from some of the left and Muslims on how we did help stop the genocide of the Bosnian Muslims. What would have happened if we had not intervened? What numbers would we be looking at now? Hence why those who blame the west are doing so off a false pretence and looking to excuse the violence in the Middle East that isd not something new but has been going on for centuries. The problem to me is two fold. One a fear of losing religious control as we once saw in the west, which caused endless wars. And something again that has gone on for centuries. Second, anongoing conflict for supremacy in Islam, between Sunni and Shia Muslims. All again what has happened in the west which again cost countless lives through many wars.

I agree with your points above though on how the left conflict and try to shout down any geuine criticism or concerns, of which there rightly is based around a clash in values.

Didge wrote:Talk about a grand slam philosophy.
Parenting blogger and author Doyin Richards, a coach for the only all-girls team in its West L.A. league, is teaching his players that they can play ball with the boys.


Courtesy of Doyin Richards
The kickass all-girls team, the Angels.  
And the California father of two, a self-proclaimed feminist, says that by instilling confidence in them, he hopes to show his players that anything boys can do they can do, too.  “My goal is to let them know that these girls are just as good, just as talented, just as powerful as any boy out there.” he told The Huffington Post of his team, the Angels. “We have to start early with these girls to let them know they can compete.”  The coach told HuffPost that his team, who plays against mostly all-boys or majority-boys teams, encounters challenges on the field. Spectators or others often do not see them in the same way that they do the boys, he said.






The dad explained to HuffPost that while coaching, he strives to change attitudes and even out the playing field. When speaking to his players, he’s careful to talk to them just as he would any male player.

“In the beginning, I found myself saying, ‘Good job sweetie!’ or ‘Come here honey!’ But then I thought, ‘Wait a second. That’s not OK,’” he said. “That could translate to when they’re at work and their boss calls them some pet name. They’re not honeys they’re not sweeties. These are girls ― human beings with names and need to be respected as such.”

Furthermore, he said he helps them zero in on specific skills and the game itself, rather than the opposing team.
“Focus on how to swing, focus on your ready position when you’re on the field ... When you really focus in on the task at hand, you don’t worry about your opponent,” he said.

While he tries to instill feminist values into his coaching, Richards also asserts that it’s crucial for the girls to see a male who is committed to gender equality.

“I think it’s so, so important to have male allies. I want my daughters to see me cooking in the kitchen, to see me cleaning up, to see me doing their hair, so they understand ... that that’s to be expected,” he said. “That men who truly embrace feminism are the norm. I want my daughters and my team to know that.”


And ultimately, through his team and their strength, he says he hopes that people will see girls as serious athletes.

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/entry/coach-for-only-all-girls-team-in-t-ball-league-proves-players-arent-sweeties_us_57a8d349e4b0b770b1a3bd5b?utm_hp_ref=good-news

He's good!  But I think professional motivators should just concentrate on boosting the self confidence of girls rather than indoctrinating the belief that they are exactly equal to boys which is not quite true and though well-meaning, you may be setting them up for disappointment later in life. The sexes are not identical, females are better in some respects and worse in others.

The guy is a very good parent to his own two children too. I'm impressed.  Actually the most priceless gift anyone can give a child - son or daughter - is your time. This will instill  self esteem into them,  and eliminate many of the problems seen in society today.  Any other gift (endless posh presents, expensive holidays, expensive schools) comes a distant second in the upbringing of a child.

Fair and valid points, which I believe its a forever changing process for him. More so based around whre you have a father that clearly has been brought up male orientated around sports and wanting sons. I am encouragd at the fact he is bing honest to them, but most of all trying to change sterotypes.

They may not be interested in sports, Didge.    They may want careers as artists, doctors or social workers etc but fair enough I understand the American passion for sports. It's a different culture out there.

Jules wrote:They may not be interested in sports, Didge.    They may want careers as artists, doctors or social workers but fair enough I understand the American passion for sports. It's a different culture out there.

They may well not, but generally many girls do enjoy sports and who says that this even has to interefere with any career thy end up deciding to choose in future life?

Didge wrote:

Jules wrote:They may not be interested in sports, Didge.    They may want careers as artists, doctors or social workers but fair enough I understand the American passion for sports. It's a different culture out there.

They may well not, but generally many girls do enjoy sports and who says that this even has to interefere with any career thy end up deciding to choose in future life?

He was indoctrinating them with a meme along the lines that "even when aged 6/16/26/36" etc they would still be as good as the men. Like he was training them for a future career? - but again, fair enough, I may have read his intentions wrong.

Jules wrote:

Didge wrote:


They may well not, but generally many girls do enjoy sports and who says that this even has to interefere with any career thy end up deciding to choose in future life?

He was indoctrinating them with a meme along the lines that "even when aged 6/16/26/36"  etc  they would still be as good as the men. Like he was training them for a future career? -  but again, fair enough, I may have read his intentions wrong.

There is no reason thy will not be as good as men and even more so when it coms to the workplace this is vitally important.
Where in both there is still a prejudice against women. If he is teaching to them rightly to suceed in a world that is still predominantly dominatd by men, thn that can only be a good thing to me.

Lord Foul wrote:@ Ben....so one should not...ever...question the motives of those who defend what YOU think constitute good ideas, simply on the basis of "the more the better"

confirmation bias anyone?

so taking the left in britain as an example....

because they love those of one particular belief set...to the point of forgiving them ANY atrocity, they are GREAT....despite the fact that as didge points out with great regularity they ALSO despise denigrate and yes hate those of another belief set?????

the one "good" over rides and excuses the equivalent foul "bad"???

What do you mean, "the more the better"?

I don't think anybody committing an atrocity deserves the help of society, no -- and I question whether that's the case with the British left, or if it's just a right-wing strawman.

Ben Reilly wrote:

Lord Foul wrote:@ Ben....so one should not...ever...question the motives of those who defend what YOU think constitute good ideas, simply on the basis of "the more the better"

confirmation bias anyone?

so taking the left in britain as an example....

because they love those of one particular belief set...to the point of forgiving them ANY atrocity, they are GREAT....despite the fact that as didge points out with great regularity they ALSO despise denigrate and yes hate those of another belief set?????

the one "good" over rides and excuses the equivalent foul "bad"???

What do you mean, "the more the better"?

I don't think anybody committing an atrocity deserves the help of society, no -- and I question whether that's the case with the British left, or if it's just a right-wing strawman.

It's not just a RW strawman, not even good enough for that, it's a little hay baby.

Ben Reilly wrote:

Lord Foul wrote:@ Ben....so one should not...ever...question the motives of those who defend what YOU think constitute good ideas, simply on the basis of "the more the better"

confirmation bias anyone?

so taking the left in britain as an example....

because they love those of one particular belief set...to the point of forgiving them ANY atrocity, they are GREAT....despite the fact that as didge points out with great regularity they ALSO despise denigrate and yes hate those of another belief set?????

the one "good" over rides and excuses the equivalent foul "bad"???

What do you mean, "the more the better"?

I don't think anybody committing an atrocity deserves the help of society, no -- and I question whether that's the case with the British left, or if it's just a right-wing strawman.

The problem is values and when values are as victor states supersceded to accomadate a set of beliefs based off a misleading concept that this is then bigotry to the believers.

Its not, as again the values within espcially the Salalfist and wahhabists belivers are in direct conflict with the values with have fought many years to obtain for homosexuals, women, religious and non-believers etc providing equality to all under the law.
The issue is the rights of some of these groups above are being placed secondary to any genuine concerns they would have to an increased number of followers of these sects of Islam. This having a further spiral effect of hate all round. The rish and increase of possible hate is then multiple to then the groups mentioned. Which then adds further fuel to far right hate against many Muslims who have integrated into society. By the failing of the left they are engineering and vastly increasing the risk. When we do allow those with neo-conservative religious beliefs and I do not mean just Islam, anything from the Far right to the Far left. People take a general view of Muslims, and are casting them as one and the same when they are not and vary in their beliefs. The problem is we are allowing these neo-concervative religious doctrines to basically go unchallenged and worse place a higher possible risk of hate devoloping towards women, homosexuals, Jew, Muslims etc.

Anyway have to go, so catch you later

The far right hates Muslims because Muslims hate gays? Are you being serious?

Jules wrote:

Didge wrote:Talk about a grand slam philosophy.
Parenting blogger and author Doyin Richards, a coach for the only all-girls team in its West L.A. league, is teaching his players that they can play ball with the boys.


Courtesy of Doyin Richards
The kickass all-girls team, the Angels.  
And the California father of two, a self-proclaimed feminist, says that by instilling confidence in them, he hopes to show his players that anything boys can do they can do, too.  “My goal is to let them know that these girls are just as good, just as talented, just as powerful as any boy out there.” he told The Huffington Post of his team, the Angels. “We have to start early with these girls to let them know they can compete.”  The coach told HuffPost that his team, who plays against mostly all-boys or majority-boys teams, encounters challenges on the field. Spectators or others often do not see them in the same way that they do the boys, he said.






The dad explained to HuffPost that while coaching, he strives to change attitudes and even out the playing field. When speaking to his players, he’s careful to talk to them just as he would any male player.

“In the beginning, I found myself saying, ‘Good job sweetie!’ or ‘Come here honey!’ But then I thought, ‘Wait a second. That’s not OK,’” he said. “That could translate to when they’re at work and their boss calls them some pet name. They’re not honeys they’re not sweeties. These are girls ― human beings with names and need to be respected as such.”

Furthermore, he said he helps them zero in on specific skills and the game itself, rather than the opposing team.
“Focus on how to swing, focus on your ready position when you’re on the field ... When you really focus in on the task at hand, you don’t worry about your opponent,” he said.

While he tries to instill feminist values into his coaching, Richards also asserts that it’s crucial for the girls to see a male who is committed to gender equality.

“I think it’s so, so important to have male allies. I want my daughters to see me cooking in the kitchen, to see me cleaning up, to see me doing their hair, so they understand ... that that’s to be expected,” he said. “That men who truly embrace feminism are the norm. I want my daughters and my team to know that.”


And ultimately, through his team and their strength, he says he hopes that people will see girls as serious athletes.

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/entry/coach-for-only-all-girls-team-in-t-ball-league-proves-players-arent-sweeties_us_57a8d349e4b0b770b1a3bd5b?utm_hp_ref=good-news

He's good!  But I think professional motivators should just concentrate on boosting the self confidence of girls rather than indoctrinating the belief that they are exactly equal to boys which is not quite true and though well-meaning, you may be setting them up for disappointment later in life. The sexes are not identical, females are better in some respects and worse in others.

The guy is a very good parent to his own two children too. I'm impressed.  Actually the most priceless gift anyone can give a child - son or daughter - is your time. This will instill  self esteem into them,  and eliminate many of the problems seen in society today.  Any other gift (endless posh presents, expensive holidays, expensive schools) comes a distant second in the upbringing of a child.

Good post and I totally agree with every word - especially the top part.

Why do teachers and parents constantly try to make the sexes the same? They're not the same. They're different with different feelings and abilities.

Celebrate the differences don't try to deny them. That's what causes hostility among different races too.

How the hell is he trying to make them the same?  


And the California father of two, a self-proclaimed feminist, says that by instilling confidence in them, he hopes to show his players that anything boys can do they can do, too.  “My goal is to let them know that these girls are just as good, just as talented, just as powerful as any boy out there.”


He's showing them that they are equal and can play as well, and they can.   Too often girls are told they can't do things.   I would have been an engineer, but was told over and over that 'girls don't do that'.   Thankfully that is changing.   Yes, we are different to boys, but we are equal and I can't think of anything of the top of my head that a girl can't do.

She can't piss out of a penis? She can't scratch her balls? She will never know what it's like to masterbate as a boy, how it feels to sleep like a boy, dream like a boy....the list is endless.

Yes the sexes are equal in some things but they aren't the same.

No one is disputing what he's doing by instilling confidence and saying you're as good as the boys' teams - but isn't that what all good fathers and coaches do? It's a non story. Which was my point.

Which is what I said, different but equally able to do just about anything that doesnt include their particular gender attributes, like boys can't have babies.     In sport we are slower but catching up fast and it's probably because boys have had longer playing competitive sport.  





[size=40]Women Are Catching Up: An Analysis Of The Lag Time Between Men’s and Women’s World Records[/size]

Every year, swimming gets faster and faster, but at what point will swimmers reach their limit? Will we ever see a time that will never be beaten again? Eventually there has to be a limit as to how fast someone can swim across the pool, but how close are we to that limit in 2015?
It is hard to comprehend that someone could be two or three seconds faster than the current World Record in the men’s 50 freestyle, but it has happened time and time again. 31 years ago, Joe Bottom held the World Record in the men’s 50 freestyle with his time of 23.74. Today, his world record time from 1978, the fastest time ever swum at the time, is slower than the current women’s record (23.73, Britta Steffen) and almost three seconds slower than the current men’s world record (20.94, Cesar Cielo).
Despite the historical trend, there will be a point where it is impossible to get any faster. I can’t try to predict at what point that will be, but at some point in the future, it will happen. What we can measure, however, is how long it takes for the women’s times to catch up the to men’s times.
Thanks to an email from Jim Dannenberg, we looked through the history books to find out how long ago the current women’s world records would have stood as the men’s world record. To our surprise, it wasn’t that long ago that the best women in 2015 would have beat the top men in the world. As a community, we revere Olympic legend Mark Spitz and everything he accomplished, but currently, both the women’s 200 freestyle and the 200 butterfly world records are faster than Spitz’s former World Records.


https://swimswam.com/women-are-catching-up-an-analysis-of-the-lag-time-between-mens-and-womens-world-record/

Ben Reilly wrote:The far right hates Muslims because Muslims hate gays? Are you being serious?

Is that what I said?

If you have islamists here that are as i said prejudice against women, homosexuals (of which there is homosexual racist), athiests etc suffering hate from Islamists. This is then seen and known to happen in an area, in the age of social media, what do you next think happens?

eddie wrote:She can't piss out of a penis? She can't scratch her balls? She will never know what it's like to masterbate as a boy, how it feels to sleep like a boy, dream like a boy....the list is endless.

Yes the sexes are equal in some things but they aren't the same.

No one is disputing what he's doing by instilling confidence and saying you're as good as the boys' teams - but isn't that what all good fathers and coaches do? It's a non story. Which was my point.

Failing again to grasp any of the points being taught, which is why I guss you failed to counter my last points

So based on the above points, what if she does feell like she is a boy inside Eddie?

Again you can teach both boys and girls aspects and things about the opposite sex, does that mean they cannot even attempt to use Emphatic intelligence now?

How also do you think he has come to understand women better?

Lets just start with that first of all