I'm sad

so had a great day at work yesterday - 14 kids most in costumes for storytime, 3 new members, beautiful evening driving home when WHAM, a deer came right out in front of me.

it was awful. luckily a sheriff's deputy on way home stopped. he took all info and pics and made sure she was dead and not suffering. I couldn't stop crying. I wasn't speeding I was not given a ticket but I just feel so sick about it. first time. I had terrible nightmares all night even after popping a sleep aid pill. he said I was lucky it was a doe otherwise a buck would've come up through the windscreen and hurt me.

Mr. C has taken it to repair shop. doubt its worth going through insurance with a $500 deductible but ill call them in an hour. I don't care about the car and the inconvenience - I just keep seeing her eyes....I'm bawling as I type.....sorry had to let it out.....

Oh Cass how awful. There's nothing I can say, but give you a hug xxxxxx

eddie wrote:Oh Cass how awful. There's nothing I can say, but give you a hug xxxxxx

cheers lovey.....its gonna hurt to drive that way to work in a few hours. Dammit this is why I still cant watch bambi and old yeller.

apologies for my weird posts last night.....I was all over t'shops.....Mr. C and junior were not home and I was in shock I guess.

Sorry to hear Me Lady Best not beat yourself up about it and this may sound silly but to help take away the mental picture of what happened, focus on something that was even worse in your life, where you are now in control of how to handle, those thoughts.


It is never wrong to reach out nor be off for the day as anyone would after that, so no need to say sorry.

x

That must have been terrible Cass. There was nothing you could do, though I know that wont make you feel any better xxx

I had a friend who lived 4 doors away from me,he was going pigeon shooting early one morning when he hit a deer. It was still alive with one leg torn off and making horrible crying noises. HE got his gun out of the car and put the deer down with a shot to the head.He pulled the deer on to the verge and called the Police. The Police charged him with discharging a firearm in a built up area and took his gun [and two others] off him.He had to go to Court and was fined £200 for the offence and lost his guns! He appealed the sentence, the fine was reduced to £50 and his guns were returned. What a joke!

Cass just don't allow yourself to beat yourself up.
I'm going to be harsh here, but be thankful it was the deer that died and not the other way round xxx

Sorry to hear it Cass - it is horrible when something like that happens because you are just never expecting it. The main thing is you were not hurt physically yourself.

Po Cass. Sorry to hear it.

If it was in the mountains, that happens all the time. Also, black bears...mommas and cubs. They just run along the highway this time of year.

Oh well, when you get home have a glass of red.

Very sorry you're going through this, Cass! There really wasn't anything you could have done differently, of course, but I know it still can bring you down. Maybe feeding some critters would make you feel better

eddie wrote:Cass just don't allow yourself to beat yourself up.
I'm going to be harsh here, but be thankful it was the deer that died and not the other way round xxx

Good way of looking at it Eddie.



Nicko, common sense prevailed in the end.

you guys rock. its a fact of life I know but still.....had a good cuddle with the kitties and the hound this morning.

having trick or treaters at work and home has cheered me up.

kid you not I saw 3 more deer in more or less the same spot on way home tonight....obviously a good munching spot for them. I admit to being a roughly nervous wreck driving home.

nicko - luckily (?) the deer died instantaneously and the deputy didn't have to shotot her - that would've done me in.

eds - ta xxxxx

Of course, if you do snuff it Cass, I shall inherit your diamonds and that lovely ruby tiara you wear around the house....oh and your recipe book.

Ta muchly

Cass wrote:so had a great day at work yesterday - 14 kids most in costumes for storytime, 3 new members, beautiful evening driving home when WHAM,  a deer came right out in front of me.

it was awful. luckily a sheriff's deputy on way home stopped. he took all info and pics and made sure she was dead and not suffering. I couldn't stop crying. I wasn't speeding I was not given a ticket but I just feel so sick about it. first time. I had terrible nightmares all night even after popping a sleep aid pill. he said I was lucky it was a doe otherwise a buck would've come up through the windscreen and hurt me.

Mr. C has taken it to repair shop. doubt its worth going through insurance with a $500 deductible but ill call them in an hour. I don't care about the car and the inconvenience - I just keep seeing her eyes....I'm bawling as I type.....sorry had to let it out.....

You poor thing x It must have been a terrible shock for you. Don't apologise for crying it needs to come out.
Hope you are feeling a bit better today xxxxx

   

THAT'S part of life ~ a very small but always present added risk of driving at dawn and dusk and early evening, when you live out on the fringes of suburbia and country/rural towns...


AROUND here it's kangaroos and wallabies that provide similar risks, while out west and up north emus (and sometimes wild or stray horses or cattle..) can also be added into the mix..    

Cass,
As a hunter I see both sides of this....taking the life of an animal is of course no shock to me, as such, but under such circumstances I'm not surprised it shook you up and upset you so much.
It is one thing to set out with the intent of "harvesting" good meat direct from nature (and lets not get lost in an "ethics" debate here) It is Entirely another to have it dropped upon you unexpectedly, especially if you are not "used " to death. I can quite empathise with you, such an event would sadden me too, especially as (in general, and certainly "over here") we tend only to take weak injured or ""cull" animals (i.e those that have been makrked as "surplus" to the needs of the herd, and who's continued presence woud endanger the health and welfare of the rst of the herd)

I usually only shoot "for the pot"...if i cant eat it (or dont like eating it) I wont shoot it (the exception being some pests, like corvids, who's numbers have to be controlled for various reasons, and then only "in sufficient quantities)
the only other reason I would shoot something is over welfare issues (like the deer Nicko's friend dispatched)

and I hate hitting even crows or grey squirrels (a serious and persistant pest here) with the car....

but just remember, there was nothing you could do about it, and the most important thing is that YOU are safe and sound....

victorisnotamused wrote:Cass,
      As a hunter I see both sides of this....taking the life of an animal is of course no shock to me, as such, but under such circumstances I'm not surprised it shook you up and upset you so much.
      It is one thing to set out with the intent of "harvesting" good meat direct from nature (and lets not get lost in an "ethics" debate here) It is Entirely another to have it dropped upon you unexpectedly, especially if you are not "used " to death. I can quite empathise with you, such an event would sadden me too, especially as (in general, and certainly "over here") we tend only to take weak injured or ""cull" animals (i.e those that have been makrked as "surplus" to the needs of the herd, and who's continued presence woud endanger the health and welfare of the rst of the herd)

I usually only shoot "for the pot"...if i cant eat it (or dont like eating it) I wont shoot it (the exception being some pests, like corvids, who's numbers have to be controlled for various reasons, and then only "in sufficient quantities)
the only other reason I would shoot something is over welfare issues (like the  deer Nicko's friend dispatched)

and I hate hitting even crows or grey squirrels (a serious and persistant pest here) with the car....

but just remember, there was nothing you could do about it, and the most important thing is that YOU are safe and sound....

+1 Victor, excellent.

You see this is one thing about us humans I love, where we can band together, when something happens to people we know and try to understand their pain, differences are put to one side where we all offer words of sympathy and help.
That to me is an encouraging sign, of how humans can progress past hate.

victorisnotamused wrote:Cass,
      As a hunter I see both sides of this....taking the life of an animal is of course no shock to me, as such, but under such circumstances I'm not surprised it shook you up and upset you so much.
      It is one thing to set out with the intent of "harvesting" good meat direct from nature (and lets not get lost in an "ethics" debate here) It is Entirely another to have it dropped upon you unexpectedly, especially if you are not "used " to death. I can quite empathise with you, such an event would sadden me too, especially as (in general, and certainly "over here") we tend only to take weak injured or ""cull" animals (i.e those that have been makrked as "surplus" to the needs of the herd, and who's continued presence woud endanger the health and welfare of the rst of the herd)

I usually only shoot "for the pot"...if i cant eat it (or dont like eating it) I wont shoot it (the exception being some pests, like corvids, who's numbers have to be controlled for various reasons, and then only "in sufficient quantities)
the only other reason I would shoot something is over welfare issues (like the  deer Nicko's friend dispatched)

and I hate hitting even crows or grey squirrels (a serious and persistant pest here) with the car....

but just remember, there was nothing you could do about it, and the most important thing is that YOU are safe and sound....

Reminds me of my first ever driving lesson when I came to an unplanned halt - in order to avoid 2 wood pigeons in the middle of the road. I was apologizing profusely to the instructor but he just observed that I had stopped safely without inconveniencing other road users before admitting he would have stopped if driving him self.

See all of the above???this is why I love all you crazy people. MWAH.

I KNOW its stupid but the 3 times I have passed by "the" place since, I have slowed down and yelled I'm so sorry out the window.....improvement today as I didn't burst into tears as well.

Anyhoos....the car will be fixed on Wednesday and life goes on.....so cheers me darlinks xxxxxx

eddie wrote:Of course, if you do snuff it Cass, I shall inherit your diamonds and that lovely ruby tiara you wear around the house....oh and your recipe book.

Ta muchly

Diamonds? Whilst being married to Mr C? You must be having a laff.....the rumour about the tiara is not true as well.....its a flashing lights one that I purchased to wear for William and Catherine's wedding....truly.....and ive already left it to the sister so you'll have to fight her for it (shes a lawyer so good luck with that).

as for the recipes? Since they're mostly in my head, i'll have to write them all down and publish them. I might leave you a discounted copy. I'm thinking of calling it - Well Butter My Buns And Call Me A Biscuit or Loaf is All You Knead- whadda ya think?

Cass wrote:

eddie wrote:Of course, if you do snuff it Cass, I shall inherit your diamonds and that lovely ruby tiara you wear around the house....oh and your recipe book.

Ta muchly

Diamonds? Whilst being married to Mr C? You must be having a laff.....the rumour about the tiara is not true as well.....its a flashing lights one that I purchased to wear for William and Catherine's wedding....truly.....and ive already left it to the sister so you'll have to fight her for it (shes a lawyer so good luck with that).

as for the recipes? Since they're mostly in my head, i'll have to write them all down and publish them. I might leave you a discounted copy. I'm thinking of calling it - Well Butter My Buns And Call Me A Biscuit or Loaf is All You Knead- whadda ya think?

I think your sister will be subtly "coerced" into parting with that tiara

And how about "Hot sticky buns dripping in butter - it's all you knead!" ??

Glad you're feeling better Cass. I'm sorry it had to happen to you.