Congratulations to Les on his wedding day!!

I'm gutted I couldn't be there due to personal circumstances but I will be thinking of you all day.

I want to take this opportunity to say I'm so, so very happy that you found the person you want to be with forever and making him your partner for life.  You are making a special commitment to each other and nothing is more beautiful than that.
I know you'll be incredibly happy together and that the two of you are made for each other.
Shit, I'm going to cry....

Have a wonderful day and may the sun shine on you both now and always.

Congratulations to Les and his partner....have a great life together.

Congratulations Les!

i think my invite got lost in the post

gutted

eddie wrote:I'm gutted I couldn't be there due to personal circumstances but I will be thinking of you all day.

I want to take this opportunity to say I'm so, so very happy that you found the person you want to be with forever and making him your partner for life.  You are making a special commitment to each other and nothing is more beautiful than that.
I know you'll be incredibly happy together and that the two of you are made for each other.
Shit, I'm going to cry....

Have a wonderful day and may the sun shine on you both now and always.

eddie, that was beautiful. sorry you couldn't go, I know you were deffo planning to

@ Les - All best wishes for today and always

Congratulations

My best wishes and the blessings of a grumpy old druid to you both. May you have a prosperous and loving future together. May the Lady smile upon you.

Met this beautiful lady at your wedding.  She asked me for a ride home.

Oh, um...still thinking of myself. HAPPY WEDDING DAY, LES.

 Aww Les, I'm feelingthelove Congratulations on your Wedding Day.  Wishing you both many years of love and happiness xxx

feelthelove wrote:  Aww Les, I'm feelingthelove Congratulations on your Wedding Day.  Wishing you both many years of love and happiness xxx

where have you been all this time ftl?  i've missed you and your emojis

nice to see you again

Good luck to you Les, may you have many happy years.

Oh have a great Wedding Day Les.

Hope you and your partner have had a wonderful day, Kes.
Wishing you both a long and happy marriage.
Many congratulations to you both.

Congrats and my best wishes for your future together, old chap.

May it last as long as my own marriage...which means that you have to get past the "golden fifty."

Can I ask Les, what will you call your husband? are you both husband to each other or will you introduce him as your partner?

Just curious because I know several gay couples but as yet none of them have married.

Felicitaciones en sus boda!!!

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WTG! Congrats, Eilzel.

Congrats my darlings. Lots of love, laughter and peace to you both in this next chapter on your life’s journey together.

And chocolate chip cookies

MWAH XXXXXXXXXX

Congratulations Les

Congratulations to you both. May you have many happy years together.

Cass, will you stop mentioning Chocolate Chip Cookies? I went to the shop an hour ago and bought a packet, "Biscuits we call 'em"

Syl wrote:Can I ask Les, what will you call your husband? are you both husband to each other or will you introduce him as your  partner?

Just curious because I know several gay couples but as yet none of them have married.

An interesting and relevant question, Syl.

I have recently been on holiday with the new(ish) lady (or Lady - explanation to come later) in my life and the tendency among those whom we have met socially has been to refer to her as "Mrs" or "your wife" on the not unreasonable (I suppose) grounds that as a couple of septuagenarians, we are a married couple.

The facts are that she is NOT "Mrs Moletrousers" (the real Mrs Moletrousers having sadly died some years ago) and she is NOT "Mrs A N Other", as the widow of a late Mr A N Other...because he happened to be Sir A N Other and she still holds the title of "Lady" in place of "Mrs."

As we have not (and will not) marry and she will not take my surname, even though it is a bit posh and double-barrelled, much confusion abounds among our acquaintances.

Now, at 78 and 77 respectively, I can hardly refer to her as "my girlfriend"....so I simply call her "my bit of fluff"!!!!!!!

Fred Moletrousers wrote:

Syl wrote:Can I ask Les, what will you call your husband? are you both husband to each other or will you introduce him as your  partner?

Just curious because I know several gay couples but as yet none of them have married.

An interesting and relevant question, Syl.

I have recently been on holiday with the new(ish) lady (or Lady - explanation to come later) in my life and the tendency among those whom we have met socially has been to refer to her as "Mrs" or "your wife" on the not unreasonable (I suppose) grounds that as a couple of septuagenarians, we are a married couple.

The facts are that she is NOT "Mrs Moletrousers" (the real Mrs Moletrousers having sadly died some years ago) and she is NOT "Mrs A N Other", as the widow of a late Mr A N Other...because he happened to be Sir A N Other and she still holds the title of "Lady" in place of "Mrs."

As we have not (and will not) marry and she will not take my surname, even though it is a bit posh and double-barrelled, much confusion abounds among our acquaintances.

Now, at 78 and 77 respectively, I can hardly refer to her as "my girlfriend"....so I simply call her "my bit of fluff"!!!!!!!

Bit of fluff marginally better than bit on the side.

I know some older not married couples....and when the man refers to the elderly lady as his "girlfriend" it seems slightly silly....partner seems more apt, even if they don't live together.

I will be interested to know what Les prefers now he is married .

Syl wrote:

Fred Moletrousers wrote:

An interesting and relevant question, Syl.

I have recently been on holiday with the new(ish) lady (or Lady - explanation to come later) in my life and the tendency among those whom we have met socially has been to refer to her as "Mrs" or "your wife" on the not unreasonable (I suppose) grounds that as a couple of septuagenarians, we are a married couple.

The facts are that she is NOT "Mrs Moletrousers" (the real Mrs Moletrousers having sadly died some years ago) and she is NOT "Mrs A N Other", as the widow of a late Mr A N Other...because he happened to be Sir A N Other and she still holds the title of "Lady" in place of "Mrs."

As we have not (and will not) marry and she will not take my surname, even though it is a bit posh and double-barrelled, much confusion abounds among our acquaintances.

Now, at 78 and 77 respectively, I can hardly refer to her as "my girlfriend"....so I simply call her "my bit of fluff"!!!!!!!

Bit of fluff  marginally better than bit on the side.

I know some older  not married couples....and when the man refers to the elderly lady as his "girlfriend" it seems slightly silly....partner seems more apt, even if they don't live together.

I will be interested to know what Les prefers now he is married .

So would I, Syl. And "partner" is a damn fine and appropriate term, in my opinion...it's what we use when we are being sensible.

"A bit on the side" indicates an extra-marital relationship; where there is no legal or formal marriage to be compromised appears to have been left out of the equasion.

Fred Moletrousers wrote:

Syl wrote:

Bit of fluff  marginally better than bit on the side.

I know some older  not married couples....and when the man refers to the elderly lady as his "girlfriend" it seems slightly silly....partner seems more apt, even if they don't live together.

I will be interested to know what Les prefers now he is married .

So would I, Syl. And "partner" is a damn fine and appropriate term, in my opinion...it's what we use when we are being sensible.

"A bit on the side" indicates an extra-marital relationship; where there is no legal or formal marriage to be compromised appears to have been left out of the equasion.

Lifes so complicated nowadays.

 
Do you remember the term "Living over the brush"? aimed at people living together 'out of wedlock'....Haven't heard either expression for a while.

nicko wrote:Cass,   will you stop mentioning Chocolate Chip Cookies?   I went to the shop an hour ago and bought a packet,    "Biscuits we call 'em"

Lol. Hope you enjoyed them.

Syl wrote:

Fred Moletrousers wrote:

An interesting and relevant question, Syl.

I have recently been on holiday with the new(ish) lady (or Lady - explanation to come later) in my life and the tendency among those whom we have met socially has been to refer to her as "Mrs" or "your wife" on the not unreasonable (I suppose) grounds that as a couple of septuagenarians, we are a married couple.

The facts are that she is NOT "Mrs Moletrousers" (the real Mrs Moletrousers having sadly died some years ago) and she is NOT "Mrs A N Other", as the widow of a late Mr A N Other...because he happened to be Sir A N Other and she still holds the title of "Lady" in place of "Mrs."

As we have not (and will not) marry and she will not take my surname, even though it is a bit posh and double-barrelled, much confusion abounds among our acquaintances.

Now, at 78 and 77 respectively, I can hardly refer to her as "my girlfriend"....so I simply call her "my bit of fluff"!!!!!!!

Bit of fluff  marginally better than bit on the side.

I know some older  not married couples....and when the man refers to the elderly lady as his "girlfriend" it seems slightly silly....partner seems more apt, even if they don't live together.

I will be interested to know what Les prefers now he is married .

Lord M, what are you like

Syl I expect husband as that is what they are now legally. My female family member calls her wife, wife. Their kids call one mom and the other mommy. Everybody’s happy

had a gay bloke over mine t'other night and he refers to his boyfriend as ''hubby''. I think they call each other hubby in general and women would refer to their partners as wives

is that sexist and gender offensive?

gelico wrote:

had a gay bloke over mine t'other night and he refers to his boyfriend as ''hubby''.  I think they call each other hubby in general and women would refer to their partners as wives

is that sexist and gender offensive?

I don’t think so, but I do ask or follow their lead in how people prefer to refer to their SO/OH and then we carry on.

I’m called hen by Mr. C (drives the Americans nuts) or the wife. My names for him are not so polite the boys call him Auldyin or Fatman and me mum/mummy( not mom).

Cass wrote:

Syl wrote:

Bit of fluff  marginally better than bit on the side.

I know some older  not married couples....and when the man refers to the elderly lady as his "girlfriend" it seems slightly silly....partner seems more apt, even if they don't live together.

I will be interested to know what Les prefers now he is married .

Lord M, what are you like

Syl I expect husband as that is what they are now legally. My female family member calls her wife, wife. Their kids call one mom and the other mommy. Everybody’s happy

Yes, husband sounds right...for both.
Not sure if Les had a preference,
My pet hate is when men introduce their wives as THE wife, instead of MY wife......it sounds like she is his property.

Cor me too Syl. I never refer to my hub as the husband, but he does say the wife about me sometimes, the look he gets is like darts from my eyes.

I once introduced my spouse with the words,------this is my first wife !
It did not go down well.

I wonder why Nicko

nicko wrote:I once introduced my spouse with the words,------this is my first wife !
It did not go down well.

Or present wife.....that would be just as bad.

She has a sense of humour, ---------------most times.

Its a man thing....I don't think I have ever heard a woman introduce her husband as THE husband.

You men are so odd sometimes.

Congratulations.

Syl wrote:

Cass wrote:
Lord M, what are you like

Syl I expect husband as that is what they are now legally. My female family member calls her wife, wife. Their kids call one mom and the other mommy. Everybody’s happy

Yes, husband sounds right...for both.
Not sure if Les had a preference,
My pet hate is when men introduce their wives as THE wife, instead of MY wife......it sounds like she is his property.

Ditto. He does it to wind me up. Thinks he’s funny. Wife. Wench. Woman. I reply yes dearest jackass?

Syl wrote:

Fred Moletrousers wrote:

An interesting and relevant question, Syl.

I have recently been on holiday with the new(ish) lady (or Lady - explanation to come later) in my life and the tendency among those whom we have met socially has been to refer to her as "Mrs" or "your wife" on the not unreasonable (I suppose) grounds that as a couple of septuagenarians, we are a married couple.

The facts are that she is NOT "Mrs Moletrousers" (the real Mrs Moletrousers having sadly died some years ago) and she is NOT "Mrs A N Other", as the widow of a late Mr A N Other...because he happened to be Sir A N Other and she still holds the title of "Lady" in place of "Mrs."

As we have not (and will not) marry and she will not take my surname, even though it is a bit posh and double-barrelled, much confusion abounds among our acquaintances.

Now, at 78 and 77 respectively, I can hardly refer to her as "my girlfriend"....so I simply call her "my bit of fluff"!!!!!!!

Bit of fluff  marginally better than bit on the side.

I know some older  not married couples....and when the man refers to the elderly lady as his "girlfriend" it seems slightly silly....partner seems more apt, even if they don't live together.

I will be interested to know what Les prefers now he is married .

Husband or wife, depending on the gender, as long as they are married, regardless of if they are straight or gay.

Now, I'm sure they day is approaching when a married gay couple includes one person assuming a different gender, in which case all bets are off. In fact, I don't know if they are even gay anymore.

Thanks for the congrats all

I'm now just about rested from what was a long yet magical day. Couldn't have gone any better.

On the question of what we'll call each other, we'll use husband for the most part (and thatis how we were pronounced by the registrar), although living in a country where a few still harbor backward views there will be times when we'll inevitably feel the need to slip to 'partner'. Generally though, and always in the UK, 'my husband'.

Thanks again all xxxxxx

Les, we definitely have to meet up again the next time you're here! Okay? X

I'm so delighted for you. The photos were lovely

eddie wrote:Les, we definitely have to meet up again the next time you're here! Okay? X

I'm so delighted for you. The photos were lovely

Get in line lady!

eddie wrote:Les, we definitely have to meet up again the next time you're here! Okay? X

I'm so delighted for you. The photos were lovely

Thanks Eds. And yes, we certainly will, well over due at this point xxx