Man shocked by girlfriend's baby name choice - but she doesn't see a problem

An expectant mum has picked out the perfect name for her son, including a middle name that means a lot to her, but there's just one problem with it.

The name she wants to use is special because it belonged to her ex-boyfriend who passed away, and it's fair to say her current boyfriend isn't feeling all that good about it.

In a post on Reddit, the dad-to-be, asked the good people of the internet whether he was an "a**hole* for not wanting to name his son after his girlfriend's ex.

He wrote: "My girlfriend and I are expecting our first born son.

"The other night when discussing names, she said she would like his middle name to be that of her ex, who died. Saying further that it would mean a lot to his family who she is still close with."

The unnamed man said the name would make him "really uncomfortable" and he didn't want to do it, but his partner didn't see a problem with it.

He continued: "I don't want to tell people, especially my son, that he is partly named after another man who his mum loved before me.

"She said, 'Why can't you say he is named after my friend who died? We weren't even together when he died'."

To make matters more complicated, the ex died of a drug overdose, and the dad doesn't want to have to tell his child that fact either.

He finished his post by saying he felt it was "pretty s*****" of his girlfriend to ask him to do this in the first place.

Original Quill wrote:

Syl wrote:Prenatal paternity testing is a sensitive subject because of the ethical and moral issues involved, including the risks of an invasive test (see below). Many doctors are unwilling to carry out a prenatal paternity test, especially if confirming the baby's father's identity is the only reason for the test.

That is a legal question, not a clinical matter.

I will say, if doctors were unwilling to prove paternity it would result in a lot of offspring without child support.

Original Quill wrote:All that is superfluous now, with blood tests.  Hence I ignored it.

The point is that DNA is quite easily determined now, prenatally or post.  But you had said that doctors were reluctant to get involved in paternity testing.  My response was, if the medical profession doesn't want to be involved, no one can determine paternity.

Of course, anyone can be hit with a court order.

Syl wrote:

Original Quill wrote:All that is superfluous now, with blood tests.  Hence I ignored it.

The point is that DNA is quite easily determined now, prenatally or post.  But you had said that doctors were reluctant to get involved in paternity testing.  My response was, if the medical profession doesn't want to be involved, no one can determine paternity.

Of course, anyone can be hit with a court order.

Prenatal DNA blood testing can risk the babies health/life....post natal DNA testing cannot, that's all there is to it really.

Original Quill wrote:

Syl wrote:

Prenatal DNA blood testing can risk the babies health/life....post natal DNA testing cannot, that's all there is to it really.

Do both.  Nothing dangerous about blood tests.

Syl wrote:Nothing shows for me...maybe the fee hasn't been paid.