Selfish people.

Syl wrote:Is selfishness on the rise or do we just become more intolerant of it as we get older?
I have  neighbours who are so unaware that their actions affect others (either that or they just don't care) I could write a long list of the  way their selfishness spoils other peoples quality of life.
On the few occasions I have pointed this out the wife acts like a victim....he stays silent.

We also drive down a road which must have one of the most selfish neighbours ever.

They have large wrought iron gates at the end of their driveway. They open out onto the public  footpath, when they take the car out they leave the gates wide open till they return, which means anyone who has to walk past has to walk into the road, including mums with prams, older people on sticks etc, its a busy road to walk into........the gates only get closed when the selfish arse returns and drives his car back onto his drive.

nicko wrote:I think that contravenes local bye-laws,   get in touch with your local Council.

Syl wrote:Is selfishness on the rise or do we just become more intolerant of it as we get older?
I have  neighbours who are so unaware that their actions affect others (either that or they just don't care) I could write a long list of the  way their selfishness spoils other peoples quality of life.
On the few occasions I have pointed this out the wife acts like a victim....he stays silent.

We also drive down a road which must have one of the most selfish neighbours ever.

They have large wrought iron gates at the end of their driveway. They open out onto the public  footpath, when they take the car out they leave the gates wide open till they return, which means anyone who has to walk past has to walk into the road, including mums with prams, older people on sticks etc, its a busy road to walk into........the gates only get closed when the selfish arse returns and drives his car back onto his drive.

HoratioTarr wrote:

Syl wrote:Is selfishness on the rise or do we just become more intolerant of it as we get older?
I have  neighbours who are so unaware that their actions affect others (either that or they just don't care) I could write a long list of the  way their selfishness spoils other peoples quality of life.
On the few occasions I have pointed this out the wife acts like a victim....he stays silent.

We also drive down a road which must have one of the most selfish neighbours ever.

They have large wrought iron gates at the end of their driveway. They open out onto the public  footpath, when they take the car out they leave the gates wide open till they return, which means anyone who has to walk past has to walk into the road, including mums with prams, older people on sticks etc, its a busy road to walk into........the gates only get closed when the selfish arse returns and drives his car back onto his drive.

I think you'll find it illegal for the gates to open and block the public thoroughfare.  If you complain to the council, they do something about it.   We had a neighbour who set up an illegal driveway.   He was forced to remove it.

Read up on the Highways Act of 1980 part 153

Syl wrote:
They have large wrought iron gates at the end of their driveway. They open out onto the public  footpath, when they take the car out they leave the gates wide open till they return, which means anyone who has to walk past has to walk into the road, including mums with prams, older people on sticks etc, its a busy road to walk into........the gates only get closed when the selfish arse returns and drives his car back onto his drive.

gelico wrote:

Syl wrote:
They have large wrought iron gates at the end of their driveway. They open out onto the public  footpath, when they take the car out they leave the gates wide open till they return, which means anyone who has to walk past has to walk into the road, including mums with prams, older people on sticks etc, its a busy road to walk into........the gates only get closed when the selfish arse returns and drives his car back onto his drive.

we had that before, it was irritating.  i tended to go along and close his gates back up then tie string round them so when he came back he had to fanny about getting scissors to cut the string off so he could get back in again.  he mentioned it to me just in passing one time and i said ''oh, well i heard a rumour that some people are a bit pissed off about you just driving off and leaving your gates open,,,maybe if you just shut them when you go they wont get tied together''


it worked, not sure if he ever knew it was me tying them up

Syl wrote:On the selfish theme....don't lend money to friends, either give it as a gift or don't, but lending can often cause resentment.

I lent a friend some money once to buy something....she said she really  needed it  and didn't have the ready cash...(this was in the days before credit cards were the norm)
I told her I would need repaying at the end of the month...so that was the agreement.
Come the end of the month...nothing.
I didn't want to ask....I wanted her to give it to me, then  I accept....no embarrassment on either side.

Anyway, to cut a long story short weeks went by, she bought herself a new jumper, went out drinking, never paid me back.

Then one day when we were out someone complimented her on the item that I had loaned her money to buy.
She said...."Thanks, Syl bought me that"......end of friendship.

Syl wrote:If i was a near neighbour of his i would shut them when i walked past, but i dont feel its my place to do that.
I do wonder why no one has complained, or reported him, because  the gates have been open blocking pedestrians for months.
The only reason i can think of why he hasn't been  stopped is maybe he is disabled in some way and people make allowances.

If that isnt the case, he is just a selfish arrogant sod.

Syl wrote:On the selfish theme....don't lend money to friends, either give it as a gift or don't, but lending can often cause resentment.

I lent a friend some money once to buy something....she said she really  needed it  and didn't have the ready cash...(this was in the days before credit cards were the norm)
I told her I would need repaying at the end of the month...so that was the agreement.
Come the end of the month...nothing.
I didn't want to ask....I wanted her to give it to me, then  I accept....no embarrassment on either side.

Anyway, to cut a long story short weeks went by, she bought herself a new jumper, went out drinking, never paid me back.

Then one day when we were out someone complimented her on the item that I had loaned her money to buy.
She said...."Thanks, Syl bought me that"......end of friendship.

HoratioTarr wrote:

Syl wrote:If i was a near neighbour of his i would shut them when i walked past, but i dont feel its my place to do that.
I do wonder why no one has complained, or reported him, because  the gates have been open blocking pedestrians for months.
The only reason i can think of why he hasn't been  stopped is maybe he is disabled in some way and people make allowances.

If that isnt the case, he is just a selfish arrogant sod.

It's no good doing petty little things.  You need to get onto the council and get him sorted.

HoratioTarr wrote:

Syl wrote:On the selfish theme....don't lend money to friends, either give it as a gift or don't, but lending can often cause resentment.

I lent a friend some money once to buy something....she said she really  needed it  and didn't have the ready cash...(this was in the days before credit cards were the norm)
I told her I would need repaying at the end of the month...so that was the agreement.
Come the end of the month...nothing.
I didn't want to ask....I wanted her to give it to me, then  I accept....no embarrassment on either side.

Anyway, to cut a long story short weeks went by, she bought herself a new jumper, went out drinking, never paid me back.

Then one day when we were out someone complimented her on the item that I had loaned her money to buy.
She said...."Thanks, Syl bought me that"......end of friendship.

How polite of you.    

eddie wrote:

Syl wrote:On the selfish theme....don't lend money to friends, either give it as a gift or don't, but lending can often cause resentment.

I lent a friend some money once to buy something....she said she really  needed it  and didn't have the ready cash...(this was in the days before credit cards were the norm)
I told her I would need repaying at the end of the month...so that was the agreement.
Come the end of the month...nothing.
I didn't want to ask....I wanted her to give it to me, then  I accept....no embarrassment on either side.

Anyway, to cut a long story short weeks went by, she bought herself a new jumper, went out drinking, never paid me back.

Then one day when we were out someone complimented her on the item that I had loaned her money to buy.
She said...."Thanks, Syl bought me that"......end of friendship.

I never borrow anything and I hate my friends paying for stuff too. I like to pay my way and also to treat people I like.  

I think it's a bad idea to work with friends and family too.  

Syl wrote:

eddie wrote:

Syl wrote:On the selfish theme....don't lend money to friends, either give it as a gift or don't, but lending can often cause resentment.

I lent a friend some money once to buy something....she said she really  needed it  and didn't have the ready cash...(this was in the days before credit cards were the norm)
I told her I would need repaying at the end of the month...so that was the agreement.
Come the end of the month...nothing.
I didn't want to ask....I wanted her to give it to me, then  I accept....no embarrassment on either side.

Anyway, to cut a long story short weeks went by, she bought herself a new jumper, went out drinking, never paid me back.

Then one day when we were out someone complimented her on the item that I had loaned her money to buy.
She said...."Thanks, Syl bought me that"......end of friendship.

I never borrow anything and I hate my friends paying for stuff too. I like to pay my way and also to treat people I like.  

I think it's a bad idea to work with friends and family too.  

Same here Eddie....I hate to not pay my way.
I even used to give my OH his fare when he picked me up and snogged me for an hour before he dropped me home.

Syl wrote:Is selfishness on the rise or do we just become more intolerant of it as we get older?
I have  neighbours who are so unaware that their actions affect others (either that or they just don't care) I could write a long list of the  way their selfishness spoils other peoples quality of life.
On the few occasions I have pointed this out the wife acts like a victim....he stays silent.

We also drive down a road which must have one of the most selfish neighbours ever.

They have large wrought iron gates at the end of their driveway. They open out onto the public  footpath, when they take the car out they leave the gates wide open till they return, which means anyone who has to walk past has to walk into the road, including mums with prams, older people on sticks etc, its a busy road to walk into........the gates only get closed when the selfish arse returns and drives his car back onto his drive.

eddie wrote:

Syl wrote:

Same here Eddie....I hate to not pay my way.
I even used to give my OH his fare when he picked me up and snogged me for an hour before he dropped me home.

Hahahahahahaha seriously? Ah you paid him for his kisses

It's like the whole dating thing really, I don't know why women always expect to be treated when it's nice to do the treating too, imo